How To Save A Relationship - Sometimes The Best Answer Is To Do Nothing At All
How to save a relationship - is it possible? Even if the two of you have split up, or divorced (if you were married), and have been apart for a while, yes - there IS still hope for your relationship.
Relationships, especially marriages, can be miserable sometimes.
But think about it - when you put two different people in one home for a long time, there are going to be problems to deal with.
Problems are actually a good thing - when you know how to handle them correctly, that is.
What is happening in your relationship? What do you WANT to happen? What do you see for the two of you in your future? Talk these things over with your partner.
If you have a hard time talking, then write it down on paper.
List everything you would like to happen, and what you think is happening.
When you're done, show it to each other.
There may be a lot of things that are the same, but you may be surprised at how many things are different.
What you see as a problem may not be a problem at all to your partner, and vice-versa.
The same goes for the good things in your relationship.
Do the two of you argue a lot? Can those arguments be avoided? Sometimes, when a couple just can't take even looking at each other anymore, an argument can come out of nowhere.
When you get angry, it is best not to say anything at all, (even though you'd probably rather cut your tongue off).
Get out of the situation - go for a walk, or a drive.
Take a hot shower or bath.
Watch a movie or read a book.
Listen to music or go out and work in the yard.
Do something that makes you calmer.
THEN, go and TALK - not shout - with your partner about these things and how you can work them out.
That may seem weird at first, and it may very well be awkward.
I know it was for me when I first learned about it.
But I tried it, and it was awkward.
But it WORKED! After that it got easier, fast.
You can do these things if the two of you are still together, or if you are living apart.
These things will help both of you realize how much you DO love each other, and that there ARE ways to fix these things.
Relationships, especially marriages, can be miserable sometimes.
But think about it - when you put two different people in one home for a long time, there are going to be problems to deal with.
Problems are actually a good thing - when you know how to handle them correctly, that is.
What is happening in your relationship? What do you WANT to happen? What do you see for the two of you in your future? Talk these things over with your partner.
If you have a hard time talking, then write it down on paper.
List everything you would like to happen, and what you think is happening.
When you're done, show it to each other.
There may be a lot of things that are the same, but you may be surprised at how many things are different.
What you see as a problem may not be a problem at all to your partner, and vice-versa.
The same goes for the good things in your relationship.
Do the two of you argue a lot? Can those arguments be avoided? Sometimes, when a couple just can't take even looking at each other anymore, an argument can come out of nowhere.
When you get angry, it is best not to say anything at all, (even though you'd probably rather cut your tongue off).
Get out of the situation - go for a walk, or a drive.
Take a hot shower or bath.
Watch a movie or read a book.
Listen to music or go out and work in the yard.
Do something that makes you calmer.
THEN, go and TALK - not shout - with your partner about these things and how you can work them out.
That may seem weird at first, and it may very well be awkward.
I know it was for me when I first learned about it.
But I tried it, and it was awkward.
But it WORKED! After that it got easier, fast.
You can do these things if the two of you are still together, or if you are living apart.
These things will help both of you realize how much you DO love each other, and that there ARE ways to fix these things.
