Many people, frequently approach divorce in the same manner in which they approach a department store clearance sale.
Anxious to find a great deal, they grab anything that looks like it might fit, particularly if the price is right.
Caught up in the excitement of getting a bargain, they fail to give any real consideration as to whether or not the purchase is truly a good deal.
Later, inspecting the purchase away from the sale excitement, it becomes clear the deal was not as good as it appeared.
With clarity of thought, the tear or stain becomes noticeable.
Trying on the garment, it becomes obvious that it does not fit properly; it looks awful.
Purchasing the garment was definitely the wrong decision.
All is not lost.
Simply return the item to the store and exchange it for something more appropriate or get a full refund.
Sadly, many peopled approach their divorce process the same way.
They retain a lawyer that talks a good game, they make rash decisions in the emotional heat of the moment, and then agree to terms which do not make financial or legal sense just to get the process over.
But, unlike the clearance sale find, divorce agreements are not so easily taken back.
You will be legally bound by the decisions you make for a very long time.
Generally, in order to have an agreement legally modified or amended, there must be a showing of a substantial change in circumstances.
By developing a tactical plan of approach you will gain the knowledge and understanding to be able to separate good deals from bad deals.
While divorce is never easy, it does not need to destroy you or your family.
Acting with calm and clarity of thought will serve you much better in making rational appropriate decisions which will work for you in the long run.
Divorce, is difficult and fraught with stress and emotional upheaval.
The process is daunting and overwhelming.
In most cases there are two components of divorce: emotional and legal.
These components happen concurrently.
Because it is difficult to deal with the emotional aspects and the legal practicalities at the same time, many people tend to address one but not the other.
Frequently, the emotional aspects - the hurt, pain and anger - receive first priority, leaving legal aspects to chance.
This is a colossal mistake.
Emotions will evolve and change over time.
However, legally binding agreements will be in effect for a very long time.
In order to emerge successfully, and ready to begin your new post divorce life, a solid proactive plan of approach must be developed.
By taking the time and putting in the effort to develop a plan tailored to your individual circumstances, you ensure that the actions you take and the decisions you make during your divorce process will be well thought out.
There are many benefits to taking a proactive tactical approach to divorce from both legal and emotional stand points.
Benefits include: o Reduce attorney fees.
o Decrease stress.
o Diminish acrimony.
o Maintain greater control over the legal process.
o Control your future.
o Act proactively not reactively.
o Set the stage for making sound rational decisions.
o Establish negotiation and settlement goals and parameters.
When prepared correctly, the tactical divorce plan will accomplish seven major goals: 1.
Develop the right personal and professional teams to help you get through the process and on with your life.
2.
Understand your current financial, legal and health conditions.
3.
Crystallize your current wishes and needs.
4.
Figure out your future wishes and needs.
5.
Facilitate the shift from couple mindset to single mindset life management.
6.
Plan how to reach a settlement that meets your needs and wants.
7.
Set the foundation to create the life you desire.
Remember, the decisions made during divorce will have a long lasting impact on your future.
Developing and employing a solid plan will ensure those decisions are well thought out and appropriate.