If you want to get your ex back, it is first important to let them go...
Sounds a little unbelievable, I know, but...
space can allow your relationship to heal, and to start growing again.
If you are serious about trying to restart a relationship, it is important that you give your ex some space for several weeks in the initial stage after the separation.
This actually has a psychological "bonding" effect and is for your own good...
Giving your ex space will give them time to cool down.
Many relationships end on bad terms and it is very possible that they might not want to see you right away.
If you are constantly contacting them after a break up, you will only force them farther away from you.
You will appear needy, desperate and clingy...
which are all traits people reject.
Give them space, and allow their emotions to settle down too.
Trying to start a relationship a month or two down the line will be much easier for the both of you.
It will help both of you not to concentrate on petty differences and focus on the bigger problems with the relationship and get rid of them as much as possible.
Another reason that space is an important factor at restarting a relationship is because it forces you and your ex to live apart and miss each other.
This can actually cause feelings for one another.
Once the initial anger has passed, many people will find themselves focusing on the good things that they miss.
Giving space to your ex can make them realize what they are missing not being with you.
When you come back into contact they will be more likely to want to see you and talk things over.
Space is also important for you to analyze the relationship.
When you were in your relationship, it is sometimes hard to figure out what is wrong.
People have a tendency to focus on small things.
But when we take a step back, we can see the whole picture.
This can make it easier for us to see the problems in our relationships, and what we can do to fix them.