Help To Save A Marriage - The Beginning Steps
Marriage, it a wonderful part of life, but sometimes even the best things in life can experience bumps and rough spots.
Life can throw events at you that can cause rifts and heart ache, it how you deal with these events that matters.
How to save a marriage begins now.
Like a doctor faced with the challenge of a sick patient, they must find the cause of the illness so they can prevent future outbreaks.
If your marriage is going through a difficult patch, you too must play the doctor.
You will have to treat the symptoms as well as find the causes of your marital problems.
Once you discover your problems, your mission is to work on healing the symptoms and then eliminate the causes so the same problems don't reoccur.
If your marriage problems are caused by one or both of you, you have to clearly identify this and then take immediate action to change the causes of the problems.
The problems can be many different issues; you need to be honest, open and willing to listen to each other.
Don't play the blame game, be willing to accept the others opinions and views.
Next Step A smart way to approach your marital difficulties is to be organized.
Before talking have both of you make a list of your problems.
Dont just list the others faults, be responsible, take your faults into account.
With your faults clearly jotted down try to write alongside these faults the actions that could be taken to change the problem into a positive outcome.
Having an organised approach can take some of the emotion out of the repair process.
Once you have gone over the faults try to prepare a plan of action, its time to start the ball rolling and act on this plan.
Not tomorrow, now!! You may find that your partner is very uncooperative, maybe they believe they are the innocent party.
If this case arises then you have no other choice than to resort to other means to convince your partner to remain in the marriage.
If the above happens, the list is still your first action.
Prepare your list then show your partner.
Showing your partner will show them that you have recognised some of your problem areas and downfalls.
It also shows them that you have made the effort to come up with ways to hopeful remove these problems and try to repair the marriage.
Once you spouse is shown that you are working to better things, you may have to suggest they do the same, or as in many cases in this situation your partner will prepare their own list without any prompting..
Writing down you rights and wrongs and your proposed forward actions is the first step.
Now you need to prepare a list of all the reasons to salvage your marriage.
Make a list which shows your marriages strong points and weaknesses.
Sit down with your partner and go through them.
Unfortunately with many marriage problems partners just allow them to continue until they spiral out of control.
Many people believe that it is much easier to remain in a situation than it is to change.
If you want your marriage to continue, if you are brave enough to identify the problems and show you are willing to work the kinks out of your marriage, you will find that your partner will be more responsive to it as well.
Someone has to make the first move, be that person.
Good Luck.
Life can throw events at you that can cause rifts and heart ache, it how you deal with these events that matters.
How to save a marriage begins now.
Like a doctor faced with the challenge of a sick patient, they must find the cause of the illness so they can prevent future outbreaks.
If your marriage is going through a difficult patch, you too must play the doctor.
You will have to treat the symptoms as well as find the causes of your marital problems.
Once you discover your problems, your mission is to work on healing the symptoms and then eliminate the causes so the same problems don't reoccur.
If your marriage problems are caused by one or both of you, you have to clearly identify this and then take immediate action to change the causes of the problems.
The problems can be many different issues; you need to be honest, open and willing to listen to each other.
Don't play the blame game, be willing to accept the others opinions and views.
Next Step A smart way to approach your marital difficulties is to be organized.
Before talking have both of you make a list of your problems.
Dont just list the others faults, be responsible, take your faults into account.
With your faults clearly jotted down try to write alongside these faults the actions that could be taken to change the problem into a positive outcome.
Having an organised approach can take some of the emotion out of the repair process.
Once you have gone over the faults try to prepare a plan of action, its time to start the ball rolling and act on this plan.
Not tomorrow, now!! You may find that your partner is very uncooperative, maybe they believe they are the innocent party.
If this case arises then you have no other choice than to resort to other means to convince your partner to remain in the marriage.
If the above happens, the list is still your first action.
Prepare your list then show your partner.
Showing your partner will show them that you have recognised some of your problem areas and downfalls.
It also shows them that you have made the effort to come up with ways to hopeful remove these problems and try to repair the marriage.
Once you spouse is shown that you are working to better things, you may have to suggest they do the same, or as in many cases in this situation your partner will prepare their own list without any prompting..
Writing down you rights and wrongs and your proposed forward actions is the first step.
Now you need to prepare a list of all the reasons to salvage your marriage.
Make a list which shows your marriages strong points and weaknesses.
Sit down with your partner and go through them.
Unfortunately with many marriage problems partners just allow them to continue until they spiral out of control.
Many people believe that it is much easier to remain in a situation than it is to change.
If you want your marriage to continue, if you are brave enough to identify the problems and show you are willing to work the kinks out of your marriage, you will find that your partner will be more responsive to it as well.
Someone has to make the first move, be that person.
Good Luck.
