Dating Tips for Women Who Have Been Burnt One Too Many Times
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results".
Albert Einstein Falling in love again after being hurt can be a really tough.
It's easy to think you are a failure after a break up, to run away and put all men in the same category.
In the end your only hurting one person YOU! After a breakup especially after being burnt the most common thoughts are, "What if I never meet anyone again?" "I don't want to be alone.
" "What if the next guy hurts me too?" Too often women plunge into the arms of another man too soon and make the same mistakes and unfortunately end up broken hearted again.
If this is you, it's time to take ownership of your circumstances.
You and only you create your reality and it's now time to break any of your patterns and ultimately find Mr right for a happy healthy relationship.
Understanding how to break your old dysfunctional patterns is incredibly empowering.
After being hurt it's normal to feel fragile, angry and a little scared to get back on the horse.
If you are feeling these fears, chances are you are not ready.
It is a good sign you need some emotional TLC and restore your confidence.
Before looking for love again let go of any anger and release your baggage.
No one besides a therapist wants to deal with you.
You have to heal yourself before you can give back to anyone.
If you think all men are jerks, guess what? That is all you will attract.
If you have been hurt one too many times it's time to take a break from men and have a relationship with yourself and look at what types of men you are attracting.
Take a deep breath and rediscover what is important to you.
Embrace 'me' time, get out there try new things, do the things you have always wanted to do, spoil yourself, buy yourself something beautiful, spend time with your friends.
Taking time out for you will give you a much needed confidence boost and most importantly give you clarity on whether you have been having relationships with the wrong men.
Being in your heart space will give you the answer to that question.
Taking time out for you also gives you the opportunity to really know what you want and don't want from a relationship.
It also allows you to establish your true core values, during this time a great exercise is to write down the qualities you are looking for in a relationship.
Focus more on your ideal relationship rather than the man just to being with.
Your ideal relationship is something that is unique to you, it could be exotic elaborate or simple.
It could be full of romance, support, adventure, it could mean having a family, and it could be full of great communication, sexual chemistry and so much more.
The world is your oyster.
Start to create your ideal relationship by defining it.
Once you have defined your relationship ask yourself, who do I have to be to allow this relationship enter into my life? Start to think about the person you have to be to attract this relationship, followed by implementing your new found way of being.
As each day passes and you focus more and your bright future you will let go of the painful past.
Go into a new relationship and expect the best, don't expect the new man to be hurtful.
Take things slowly, don't rush into sex.
Get to know him, what is important to him, his values, be friends before lovers, be an open book about your needs in a relationship and set healthy boundaries early on.
He will respect you for your integrity and self-worth.
A solid relationship needs a foundation of friendship, trust, respect, honesty good communication.
It takes time to develop those qualities in each other you deserve the best, love is out there, and good men just like you are looking for love.
And remember it takes two to tango.
Albert Einstein Falling in love again after being hurt can be a really tough.
It's easy to think you are a failure after a break up, to run away and put all men in the same category.
In the end your only hurting one person YOU! After a breakup especially after being burnt the most common thoughts are, "What if I never meet anyone again?" "I don't want to be alone.
" "What if the next guy hurts me too?" Too often women plunge into the arms of another man too soon and make the same mistakes and unfortunately end up broken hearted again.
If this is you, it's time to take ownership of your circumstances.
You and only you create your reality and it's now time to break any of your patterns and ultimately find Mr right for a happy healthy relationship.
Understanding how to break your old dysfunctional patterns is incredibly empowering.
After being hurt it's normal to feel fragile, angry and a little scared to get back on the horse.
If you are feeling these fears, chances are you are not ready.
It is a good sign you need some emotional TLC and restore your confidence.
Before looking for love again let go of any anger and release your baggage.
No one besides a therapist wants to deal with you.
You have to heal yourself before you can give back to anyone.
If you think all men are jerks, guess what? That is all you will attract.
If you have been hurt one too many times it's time to take a break from men and have a relationship with yourself and look at what types of men you are attracting.
Take a deep breath and rediscover what is important to you.
Embrace 'me' time, get out there try new things, do the things you have always wanted to do, spoil yourself, buy yourself something beautiful, spend time with your friends.
Taking time out for you will give you a much needed confidence boost and most importantly give you clarity on whether you have been having relationships with the wrong men.
Being in your heart space will give you the answer to that question.
Taking time out for you also gives you the opportunity to really know what you want and don't want from a relationship.
It also allows you to establish your true core values, during this time a great exercise is to write down the qualities you are looking for in a relationship.
Focus more on your ideal relationship rather than the man just to being with.
Your ideal relationship is something that is unique to you, it could be exotic elaborate or simple.
It could be full of romance, support, adventure, it could mean having a family, and it could be full of great communication, sexual chemistry and so much more.
The world is your oyster.
Start to create your ideal relationship by defining it.
Once you have defined your relationship ask yourself, who do I have to be to allow this relationship enter into my life? Start to think about the person you have to be to attract this relationship, followed by implementing your new found way of being.
As each day passes and you focus more and your bright future you will let go of the painful past.
Go into a new relationship and expect the best, don't expect the new man to be hurtful.
Take things slowly, don't rush into sex.
Get to know him, what is important to him, his values, be friends before lovers, be an open book about your needs in a relationship and set healthy boundaries early on.
He will respect you for your integrity and self-worth.
A solid relationship needs a foundation of friendship, trust, respect, honesty good communication.
It takes time to develop those qualities in each other you deserve the best, love is out there, and good men just like you are looking for love.
And remember it takes two to tango.
