If you are trying to get your ex back, then understanding and dealing with your emotions the right way is critical to your success.
Allowing your emotions to run wild will kill any chance you have of getting your ex back.
Once you allow your mind to bring painful emotions to the surface and deal with them head on you will be ready to start planning your strategy for getting back your ex.
Understand that you will be unable to tempt your lover back into your arms if you are an emotional basket case.
How can you gain control over your emotions? There are two critical actions you must take when it comes to dealing with post break up emotions:

• You must allow yourself to experience your emotions.
  
• You must then actively analyze them.
  

The most important thing to remember is never to deny your emotions after a breakup.
Deal with the reality of your emotions especially the negative ones.
Shutting out negative emotions will only cause them to return worse than they were before and will postpone the opportunity to reunify with your ex.
Being open and allowing yourself to experience all of your emotions will enable you to understand the source of your pain.
Let yourself feel your emotions as they occur -- every one of them regardless of how awful they may seem.
The knowledge you gain as a result will be priceless in developing an understanding of why you are hurt and how you should adapt in order to overcome.
Remember, you cannot begin the process of making up with your ex until you are in a positive mental state.
This positive mental state can only occur after your mind has purged itself of the negativity associated with the initial breakup phase.