Should You Divorce - 4 Instances When the Answer Might Be Yes
Divorce is a difficult and painful life transition.
There are many considerations, including living arrangements, shared history, ideals of commitment, finances, and of course children of the marriage.
Ending a marriage is a serious step, but there are instances where the marriage may be toxic enough, and even dangerous, and merit taking this measure.
Here are 4 instances where the answer "Should I divorce?" might be yes: 1.
Abuse in the marriage.
Physical abuse is very serious and scary, and often escalates over time.
Please contact a domestic violence shelter, or another professional who specializes in this issue, to determine the safest exit strategy.
It is a very dangerous time when leaving an abuser.
If you are being psychologically and emotionally abused, this is still very serious.
The damage can be significant if you are constantly subjected to criticism and controlling behaviors that make you feel incompetent and even crazy.
2.
Unaddressed addiction issues in your spouse.
You will always take a back burner to your spouse's quest for the next high, and it is likely your partner won't be able to be available emotionally in the relationship.
Your spouse's various drug or alcohol related crises may result in financial and legal consequences, such as DUI, personal injury, and even charges related to a death if someone is killed due to actions your partner takes under the influence.
You may even be at risk if, for example, you get in a vehicle with your partner after he or she has used.
3.
Repeated infidelity.
A marriage can survive an affair, and even be stronger if both partners make a committed effort to open up communication and increase accountability.
However, if adultery occurs over and over, there may not be a foundation left to build any kind of marriage upon.
In addition, you may be risking your health and even life by staying with someone who is not being faithful to you.
4.
Your partner has a personality disorder such as narcissism or sociopathy/psychopathy.
If your partner is acting out as a result of such a disorder, perhaps in the ways already described, this is a daunting situation.
There is no widely accepted cure for these disorders, and if your spouse refuses to try to address the issue, you may be in a very difficult situation without much hope for change.
There are many considerations, including living arrangements, shared history, ideals of commitment, finances, and of course children of the marriage.
Ending a marriage is a serious step, but there are instances where the marriage may be toxic enough, and even dangerous, and merit taking this measure.
Here are 4 instances where the answer "Should I divorce?" might be yes: 1.
Abuse in the marriage.
Physical abuse is very serious and scary, and often escalates over time.
Please contact a domestic violence shelter, or another professional who specializes in this issue, to determine the safest exit strategy.
It is a very dangerous time when leaving an abuser.
If you are being psychologically and emotionally abused, this is still very serious.
The damage can be significant if you are constantly subjected to criticism and controlling behaviors that make you feel incompetent and even crazy.
2.
Unaddressed addiction issues in your spouse.
You will always take a back burner to your spouse's quest for the next high, and it is likely your partner won't be able to be available emotionally in the relationship.
Your spouse's various drug or alcohol related crises may result in financial and legal consequences, such as DUI, personal injury, and even charges related to a death if someone is killed due to actions your partner takes under the influence.
You may even be at risk if, for example, you get in a vehicle with your partner after he or she has used.
3.
Repeated infidelity.
A marriage can survive an affair, and even be stronger if both partners make a committed effort to open up communication and increase accountability.
However, if adultery occurs over and over, there may not be a foundation left to build any kind of marriage upon.
In addition, you may be risking your health and even life by staying with someone who is not being faithful to you.
4.
Your partner has a personality disorder such as narcissism or sociopathy/psychopathy.
If your partner is acting out as a result of such a disorder, perhaps in the ways already described, this is a daunting situation.
There is no widely accepted cure for these disorders, and if your spouse refuses to try to address the issue, you may be in a very difficult situation without much hope for change.
