Britain"s Royal Wedding As a Metaphor to One"s Lack of Connection to One"s Own Self
Britain's failing financial situation A recent article in the New York Times dated April 14, 2011 reported that "Retail sales plunged 3.
5 percent in March, the sharpest monthly downturn in Britain in 15 years.
And a new report by the Center for Economic and Business Research forecasts that real household income will fall by 2 percent this year.
That would make Britain's income squeeze the worst for two consecutive years since the 1930s.
" Britain's Royal Wedding In spite of these tough economic times and the hard austerity measures put in place, Britain's extravagant Royal Wedding of April 29, 2011 illustrates a total disconnection from reality.
The Royal Wedding as a metaphor to one's lack of connection to one's own self The disconnection between Britain's extravagant Royal Wedding and Britain's terrible financial situation can serve as a metaphor to one's lack of connection between hanging-on to fantasies about intimate relationships and the failure of cultivating a successful one.
No matter how often some people fail in their relationships, many don't take the necessary steps to figure out what drives them to fail, how to stop it from happening and how to become empowered to cultivate a successful intimacy.
In spite of failing time and again in their relationships, many prefer to live in a "fairy land", hanging-on to unrealistic expectations and fantasies about partners and relationships, unwilling to confront reality and adjust their opinions, wishes and desires accordingly.
As they continue to fail, they tell themselves they haven't found their "soul-mate" yet; that "the time" isn't ripe yet; that "the one and only" hasn't arrived yet.
And at any rate, they tell themselves, right now they are "too busy promoting their career"; they "aren't actually ready for a relationship yet", but this "special person" will arrive when the time is right and then they "will live happy for ever after" and "will love their partner and have wonderful sex for the rest of their lives".
Many shut their eyes in order not to face the reality of their failed relationships.
They use explanations and justifications as escape routes, rather than making an attempt to understand how they shoot themselves in the foot in relationships.
What drives many to ignore reality even at the expense of failed relationships? 1) It is easier for many to utter such explanations and justifications over and over again, like a mantra, and to believe in them, rather than acknowledge and accept the possibility that failing, time and again, to establish a successful relationship means - there is something in them that causes this failure.
2) It is easier to find explanations which sit "outside" themselves rather than admit they have needs and fears which might prevent them from succeeding in a relationship (such as: the fear of commitment; the fear of losing one's independence; the need to receive so much love that they suffocate any person they go out with; the need to control which make their partners run away from them, and so on).
3) It is easier for them to hold on to their set of expectations and fantasies rather than to become aware of the ways in which they sabotage their relationships.
4) It is easier for many to deny and reject some of their own traits of behaviors which cause them to harm their relationships.
They rather blame their partners for the failure rather than take responsibility for their part in the failure.
5) It is easier for many to keep behaving in exactly the same ways they have been used to rather than take the necessary steps to develop self-awareness - get to know and understand themselves better, become able to stop harming their relationships and empowered to cultivate a healthy and satisfying bond.
6) It is easier for many to think they know "who they are" and to deny the possibility they are not aware rather than developing awareness and realizing things about themselves they are afraid to acknowledge (for example: the masks they wear and the self-manipulations they use).
Childhood tales which continue into adult life and relationships Living in a fairy-tale is sweet and charming.
For some, hanging on to childhood stories about "the knight on the white horse" and "the frog which turned into a prince" is a way of life.
How often do we hear about those believing their "knight" will eventually show up? About those believing they can mold their partner into what they want to see in a partner? "He/she has potential", they say, being certain they will turn this "potential" into "the person they would like to have as a partner".
So, many stay disconnected from their self just like The Royal Wedding is detached from reality.
After all, the world of fairy-tales, David Copperfield and Harry Potter are brighter, more sparkling and exciting than reality.
5 percent in March, the sharpest monthly downturn in Britain in 15 years.
And a new report by the Center for Economic and Business Research forecasts that real household income will fall by 2 percent this year.
That would make Britain's income squeeze the worst for two consecutive years since the 1930s.
" Britain's Royal Wedding In spite of these tough economic times and the hard austerity measures put in place, Britain's extravagant Royal Wedding of April 29, 2011 illustrates a total disconnection from reality.
The Royal Wedding as a metaphor to one's lack of connection to one's own self The disconnection between Britain's extravagant Royal Wedding and Britain's terrible financial situation can serve as a metaphor to one's lack of connection between hanging-on to fantasies about intimate relationships and the failure of cultivating a successful one.
No matter how often some people fail in their relationships, many don't take the necessary steps to figure out what drives them to fail, how to stop it from happening and how to become empowered to cultivate a successful intimacy.
In spite of failing time and again in their relationships, many prefer to live in a "fairy land", hanging-on to unrealistic expectations and fantasies about partners and relationships, unwilling to confront reality and adjust their opinions, wishes and desires accordingly.
As they continue to fail, they tell themselves they haven't found their "soul-mate" yet; that "the time" isn't ripe yet; that "the one and only" hasn't arrived yet.
And at any rate, they tell themselves, right now they are "too busy promoting their career"; they "aren't actually ready for a relationship yet", but this "special person" will arrive when the time is right and then they "will live happy for ever after" and "will love their partner and have wonderful sex for the rest of their lives".
Many shut their eyes in order not to face the reality of their failed relationships.
They use explanations and justifications as escape routes, rather than making an attempt to understand how they shoot themselves in the foot in relationships.
What drives many to ignore reality even at the expense of failed relationships? 1) It is easier for many to utter such explanations and justifications over and over again, like a mantra, and to believe in them, rather than acknowledge and accept the possibility that failing, time and again, to establish a successful relationship means - there is something in them that causes this failure.
2) It is easier to find explanations which sit "outside" themselves rather than admit they have needs and fears which might prevent them from succeeding in a relationship (such as: the fear of commitment; the fear of losing one's independence; the need to receive so much love that they suffocate any person they go out with; the need to control which make their partners run away from them, and so on).
3) It is easier for them to hold on to their set of expectations and fantasies rather than to become aware of the ways in which they sabotage their relationships.
4) It is easier for many to deny and reject some of their own traits of behaviors which cause them to harm their relationships.
They rather blame their partners for the failure rather than take responsibility for their part in the failure.
5) It is easier for many to keep behaving in exactly the same ways they have been used to rather than take the necessary steps to develop self-awareness - get to know and understand themselves better, become able to stop harming their relationships and empowered to cultivate a healthy and satisfying bond.
6) It is easier for many to think they know "who they are" and to deny the possibility they are not aware rather than developing awareness and realizing things about themselves they are afraid to acknowledge (for example: the masks they wear and the self-manipulations they use).
Childhood tales which continue into adult life and relationships Living in a fairy-tale is sweet and charming.
For some, hanging on to childhood stories about "the knight on the white horse" and "the frog which turned into a prince" is a way of life.
How often do we hear about those believing their "knight" will eventually show up? About those believing they can mold their partner into what they want to see in a partner? "He/she has potential", they say, being certain they will turn this "potential" into "the person they would like to have as a partner".
So, many stay disconnected from their self just like The Royal Wedding is detached from reality.
After all, the world of fairy-tales, David Copperfield and Harry Potter are brighter, more sparkling and exciting than reality.
