Top 10 Relationship Mistakes To Avoid
Relationships are not always wonderful, but you can avoid disaster in your relationship. If you want to stay with a person for a long time, there are some things too keep in mind that you should not do.
1. Get Over The Ex
If you haven't gotten over your last relationship, you won't be able to start a new one. Ex's can easily ruin a new relationship if you allow them to. It is also important that you don't lead anyone else on if you still have feelings for your ex. Your new relationship will start rocky and probably will not last.
2. I Love You
Never rush into saying the three magic words, "I love you." Even if you immediately feel it, it doesn't mean that you are actually ready to be saying it. They may even feel the same way, but you might still scare them off by saying it too soon. The relationship should be allowed to blossom naturally. When the time is right, you will say it and it will be a special moment. You need to keep the other person around long enough for this, though.
3. Jealousy
Everyone gets jealous. If it isn't over your co-worker's new car, its that your girlfriend likes guys with a six pack. It can make you angry but it important to remain calm. Jealousy must be worked on gradually. Later in the relationship you can explain that certain things bother you. It doesn't mean he or she is acting on anything and by regulating your jealousy, you show that you have confidence in yourself.
4. Cheating
Cheating will end a relationship on the spot. There really aren't any excuses that can get you out of this situation. If you want to end a relationship, this is the way to do it. Otherwise, do not cheat.
5. The Past
Do not dwell on the past or attempt to foresee the future. You should be living in the present and not taking things for granted. If you are too focused on what is going to happen, or are busy blaming them for what has happened, you will not be able to work on the relationship now. Live each day as if it were your last together and your relationship will grow stronger.
6. Friends
Do not allow friends to tell you what to do in your relationship. They are your friends, but they are not you. Also, don't speak badly about your significant other's friends and hpefully they will not speak badly about yours. Relationships are time consuming, but you also want to maintain your friends who will be there for you in hard times.
7. Change
Do not try to change your partner. You fell in love with them the way they were, so why try to make them into something they are not? It is not your responsibility to make them change. If there are changes that need to be made, they will have to do it on their own. Do not try to force change.
8. Communication Is The Key
The key to the success of any relationship is communication. You must always be able to speak your mind and be willing to hear what is on theirs. The relationship will deteriorate if you do not. Some feel communication isn't important, but if you want your relationship to be successful, communication is extremely important.
9. Blaming One Another
Avoid placing blame on one another for problems in the relationship. You are a couple, so the problems belong to both of you. When going through hard times, you should be there to rely on one another, not point fingers. Relationship problems should be faced together. If you treat certain aspects of life as single person issues, you shouldn't be together.
10. Lost That Loving Feeling
This happens to many people. Don't lead anyone on if you truly have lost feelings for them. However, before making any rash decisions, carefully examine your feelings to be sure that there is nothing left for the other person. A relationship where people are not truly in love is destined for failure.
Hopefully these 10 things will help you in your relationship. If you notice yourself falling into any of these traps, make the corrections now instead of later.
1. Get Over The Ex
If you haven't gotten over your last relationship, you won't be able to start a new one. Ex's can easily ruin a new relationship if you allow them to. It is also important that you don't lead anyone else on if you still have feelings for your ex. Your new relationship will start rocky and probably will not last.
2. I Love You
Never rush into saying the three magic words, "I love you." Even if you immediately feel it, it doesn't mean that you are actually ready to be saying it. They may even feel the same way, but you might still scare them off by saying it too soon. The relationship should be allowed to blossom naturally. When the time is right, you will say it and it will be a special moment. You need to keep the other person around long enough for this, though.
3. Jealousy
Everyone gets jealous. If it isn't over your co-worker's new car, its that your girlfriend likes guys with a six pack. It can make you angry but it important to remain calm. Jealousy must be worked on gradually. Later in the relationship you can explain that certain things bother you. It doesn't mean he or she is acting on anything and by regulating your jealousy, you show that you have confidence in yourself.
4. Cheating
Cheating will end a relationship on the spot. There really aren't any excuses that can get you out of this situation. If you want to end a relationship, this is the way to do it. Otherwise, do not cheat.
5. The Past
Do not dwell on the past or attempt to foresee the future. You should be living in the present and not taking things for granted. If you are too focused on what is going to happen, or are busy blaming them for what has happened, you will not be able to work on the relationship now. Live each day as if it were your last together and your relationship will grow stronger.
6. Friends
Do not allow friends to tell you what to do in your relationship. They are your friends, but they are not you. Also, don't speak badly about your significant other's friends and hpefully they will not speak badly about yours. Relationships are time consuming, but you also want to maintain your friends who will be there for you in hard times.
7. Change
Do not try to change your partner. You fell in love with them the way they were, so why try to make them into something they are not? It is not your responsibility to make them change. If there are changes that need to be made, they will have to do it on their own. Do not try to force change.
8. Communication Is The Key
The key to the success of any relationship is communication. You must always be able to speak your mind and be willing to hear what is on theirs. The relationship will deteriorate if you do not. Some feel communication isn't important, but if you want your relationship to be successful, communication is extremely important.
9. Blaming One Another
Avoid placing blame on one another for problems in the relationship. You are a couple, so the problems belong to both of you. When going through hard times, you should be there to rely on one another, not point fingers. Relationship problems should be faced together. If you treat certain aspects of life as single person issues, you shouldn't be together.
10. Lost That Loving Feeling
This happens to many people. Don't lead anyone on if you truly have lost feelings for them. However, before making any rash decisions, carefully examine your feelings to be sure that there is nothing left for the other person. A relationship where people are not truly in love is destined for failure.
Hopefully these 10 things will help you in your relationship. If you notice yourself falling into any of these traps, make the corrections now instead of later.
