Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back From Another Man
The scenario happens thousands of times a day: your ex breaks up with you, then begins dating someone else before you could fix the relationship.
If this happens to you, try not to be discouraged.
One of the good things you've got going for you is that she's probably on the rebound.
If you want to get back together, you'll need to take specific steps to get to the point where she wants you again.
This takes a lot of time and patience, but if you love her enough to stick it out, here are some of the first things you must do in order to win her back: Allow The Rebound To Happen - This is one of the toughest things to do, and it's the step most guys get stuck on.
When your ex begins her rebound relationship, everything's going to be puppy-dogs and ice cream.
NOTHING you can do or say to her will make her want to leave her new boyfriend.
In fact, the more you say, the harder it will be to get her back.
You've got to suck it up, sit back, and wait for the time when the honeymoon period between her and her new guy finally cools down.
Make Sure She Knows You Accept Her Relationship - Your first reaction to your exgirlfriend's new relationship is one of the most important aspects of winning her back.
She's going to be watching you very closely, looking to see jealousy.
She wants to feel vindicated by the fact that you're miserable and she's got someone new.
This isn't her being cruel, it's just her ego needing to be fed.
And the more you feed it, the harder it will be to get your ex back.
The best thing to do? Smile and politely wish her well.
Show no emotion or jealousy whatsoever.
If you can pull this off correctly, your ex will be astonished.
She's wants to see you remorseful, as if losing her has affected you.
She might even expect you to try and talk her down from her new relationship.
When you do neither, it puts her in a state of confusion and possibly even panic.
This isn't how she wanted you to react: she wanted you to fight for her on some level or another.
By doing the exact opposite of what she expects, you're actually turning the tables on her.
Don't Badmouth Her New Boyfriend - This is another hard one, but you need to do it.
No matter who the guy is, or how bad you think he might be for her...
you cannot say a bad thing about him.
Why? Because the next step involves being friends with your ex again, and above all else establishing new trust.
She's not going to trust you if you're bashing her boyfriend.
She'll never confide in you as a friend if you're always telling her to dump him.
By remaining neutral about the situation, you're giving your ex a sounding board she can use to talk about her new relationship.
Withdraw and Avoid Your Ex - After a while, you'll start seeing the chinks in the armor of your ex's new relationship.
Study them, because later on you'll need to use that information to pry them open and exploit these weaknesses.
Getting your ex back from another man is all about befriending her, establishing trust, and then slowly removing yourself from the picture just as she's starting to depend on you.
Once your ex starts to see you withdrawing from her life, she has to face potentially losing you for good.
This is something she's never had to consider before, which is why it'll scare her.
Your end goal is to make her have to choose between keeping you in her life or staying with her new guy.
You're a safer and more comfortable choice because the two of you have a long history together.
If this happens to you, try not to be discouraged.
One of the good things you've got going for you is that she's probably on the rebound.
If you want to get back together, you'll need to take specific steps to get to the point where she wants you again.
This takes a lot of time and patience, but if you love her enough to stick it out, here are some of the first things you must do in order to win her back: Allow The Rebound To Happen - This is one of the toughest things to do, and it's the step most guys get stuck on.
When your ex begins her rebound relationship, everything's going to be puppy-dogs and ice cream.
NOTHING you can do or say to her will make her want to leave her new boyfriend.
In fact, the more you say, the harder it will be to get her back.
You've got to suck it up, sit back, and wait for the time when the honeymoon period between her and her new guy finally cools down.
Make Sure She Knows You Accept Her Relationship - Your first reaction to your exgirlfriend's new relationship is one of the most important aspects of winning her back.
She's going to be watching you very closely, looking to see jealousy.
She wants to feel vindicated by the fact that you're miserable and she's got someone new.
This isn't her being cruel, it's just her ego needing to be fed.
And the more you feed it, the harder it will be to get your ex back.
The best thing to do? Smile and politely wish her well.
Show no emotion or jealousy whatsoever.
If you can pull this off correctly, your ex will be astonished.
She's wants to see you remorseful, as if losing her has affected you.
She might even expect you to try and talk her down from her new relationship.
When you do neither, it puts her in a state of confusion and possibly even panic.
This isn't how she wanted you to react: she wanted you to fight for her on some level or another.
By doing the exact opposite of what she expects, you're actually turning the tables on her.
Don't Badmouth Her New Boyfriend - This is another hard one, but you need to do it.
No matter who the guy is, or how bad you think he might be for her...
you cannot say a bad thing about him.
Why? Because the next step involves being friends with your ex again, and above all else establishing new trust.
She's not going to trust you if you're bashing her boyfriend.
She'll never confide in you as a friend if you're always telling her to dump him.
By remaining neutral about the situation, you're giving your ex a sounding board she can use to talk about her new relationship.
Withdraw and Avoid Your Ex - After a while, you'll start seeing the chinks in the armor of your ex's new relationship.
Study them, because later on you'll need to use that information to pry them open and exploit these weaknesses.
Getting your ex back from another man is all about befriending her, establishing trust, and then slowly removing yourself from the picture just as she's starting to depend on you.
Once your ex starts to see you withdrawing from her life, she has to face potentially losing you for good.
This is something she's never had to consider before, which is why it'll scare her.
Your end goal is to make her have to choose between keeping you in her life or staying with her new guy.
You're a safer and more comfortable choice because the two of you have a long history together.
