Are You a People Pleaser?
Are you a people pleaser? It's something that you want to wrap your mind around, because a lot of us - over 90 percent of us in this world - are people pleasers.
We don't realize that we are no better than the five people with whom we surround ourselves, and if these five people are kind of negative, we tend to end up being negative, too.
What kind of mind set do we have? What kind of habits? What kind of beliefs do we have? These beliefs are always influenced by those people with whom we surround ourselves.
If these are people who criticize, condemn and complain, chances are we are also going to end up criticizing, condemning and complaining.
So a few questions first.
Are you always trying to make everybody happy? Do you want people to be happy? Do you feel upset when people around you are upset? Do you try to walk on eggshells when people around you are trying to do things? Are you always afraid that somebody's going to get hurt when you say certain words? Are you always trying to make peace at home and peace at work? There's nothing wrong with that, by the way.
That's what you should be doing, because we always want to see people happy, but if you are doing it at your own expense, then you are draining your own energy, and you're never going to get anywhere in life.
You're never going to go far in life, because you're draining all the energy that you have.
If the chances are that you are a people pleaser, you want to stop doing that right away.
You know, the people who are around you, they really do these things because they feel insecure about themselves.
Sometimes we talk about superiority complex.
There's nothing like a superiority complex.
It's more an inferiority complex that is hiding behind a so-called superiority facade.
You don't want to discuss with them the things that you are planning, because if they are going to be criticizing, if their opinions and judgments about you are always negative, you would not want to tell them anything.
You might want to let them go.
Be gentle.
Be loving.
Don't be aggressive.
Don't be harsh.
Don't be angry.
Gently, but firmly, let them know that you are not taking part in that kind of thing.
If they ask you about your goals, you can even tell them politely that you choose not to tell them.
Trust me.
They will move on.
People who are negative will always move on.
Remember - we don't chase freedom.
We attract it.
We don't realize that we are no better than the five people with whom we surround ourselves, and if these five people are kind of negative, we tend to end up being negative, too.
What kind of mind set do we have? What kind of habits? What kind of beliefs do we have? These beliefs are always influenced by those people with whom we surround ourselves.
If these are people who criticize, condemn and complain, chances are we are also going to end up criticizing, condemning and complaining.
So a few questions first.
Are you always trying to make everybody happy? Do you want people to be happy? Do you feel upset when people around you are upset? Do you try to walk on eggshells when people around you are trying to do things? Are you always afraid that somebody's going to get hurt when you say certain words? Are you always trying to make peace at home and peace at work? There's nothing wrong with that, by the way.
That's what you should be doing, because we always want to see people happy, but if you are doing it at your own expense, then you are draining your own energy, and you're never going to get anywhere in life.
You're never going to go far in life, because you're draining all the energy that you have.
If the chances are that you are a people pleaser, you want to stop doing that right away.
You know, the people who are around you, they really do these things because they feel insecure about themselves.
Sometimes we talk about superiority complex.
There's nothing like a superiority complex.
It's more an inferiority complex that is hiding behind a so-called superiority facade.
You don't want to discuss with them the things that you are planning, because if they are going to be criticizing, if their opinions and judgments about you are always negative, you would not want to tell them anything.
You might want to let them go.
Be gentle.
Be loving.
Don't be aggressive.
Don't be harsh.
Don't be angry.
Gently, but firmly, let them know that you are not taking part in that kind of thing.
If they ask you about your goals, you can even tell them politely that you choose not to tell them.
Trust me.
They will move on.
People who are negative will always move on.
Remember - we don't chase freedom.
We attract it.
