Down in the dumps, because you have been dumped and desperately want to know How to get your ex back? What steps do you need to take to begin to mend the relationship? These are questions that have been asked for a lifetimes, and for as many that ask this question there are as many if not more answers and advice to solve this problem.
I would first encourage you to not let others negative experiences influence your feelings.
Day to day things change and evolve or sometimes not, but devolve instead.
Lack of communication as far as your feelings or frustrations go, will not help you get what you want.
It is important that you take a mindset from the perspective of, "Hey do you have any ideas for how we can prevent repeating our past mistakes? I was thinking about counseling...
what are your thoughts on that?" It is important to let your partner know that you realize mistakes were made, and that the blame lies with no one person, and that you are ready to take steps to correct the problem.
It is truly amazing after being with one person for a length of time, how we can take them for granted, remember that nothing is forever and that we are here and gone in a blink of an eye.
The steps to on How to get your ex back involves realizing how lucky we are to have another person that cares enough about us to make a long term commitment.
Unconditional love is never to be taken for granted.
When taking the steps to mend a relationship, think back when you were first together, what things did you enjoy doing together? If you remember, you had all of the patience in the world for the other person.
Be natural, laid back, mildly flirtatious.
Leave the past where it is; in the past! And look to the bright future that you have together.
And most important, you will never get your ex back by using guilt, or pity, but instead it will do just the opposite and push the other person even farther away.
Do not apply any pressure, do not call them constantly, just let them know that you are there for them is they need you.
Be very patient, breakups can be very traumatizing and may take some time to get over the hurt that was caused.
Some very important tried and true suggestions in how to get your ex back are: 1.
Don't contact the partner after the breakup for 30 days..
I know it's difficult, but important that you adhere to this step.
2.
After the 30 days invite the ex out to a casual date, no romance, just a catching up on events kind of date.
Here you can get a test of the waters and see what your next step might be, The important thing is to play the part that you are doing just fine without them, although that you would prefer to be with them and support them in any way that you can.
Forgive and forget, no matter who was in the wrong..
Forget the past and look to a brighter future.
We cannot change the past so there is no reason in living there.
Get together and set the expectations on both sides, so there will be no guesses as to what the other desires.
Obviously there was something lacking in the past to cause the breakup.
Identify what this was and make a plan to prevent it from happening again.
If your significant other is willing to meet you on a discussion of these topics, then you are halfway there to putting the pieces back together.
Learning how to get your ex back is not difficult, it is merely knowing the right things to say and do in the correct order to improve your chances.
Good luck and I am rooting for you.