Relationship Communication - Remaining in the Place of Love
As the years go by in a long term relationship, it can be difficult to communicate as if your in love. I know you are still in love but the ego, always wanting to be heard, can easily rear it's ugly head and make it so hard to be centered. Communication on a balanced level is one of the most important factors in keeping a relationship long term. It's all too simple to get caught up in your world...one where it seems as if everything is going wrong and no one understands. Maybe your significant other doesn't fully understand, but expressing your ability to let them in and keep them in creates bonding.
When typical fights break out what do you really hear? It's not just complaints about who left the toilet seat down, dirty socks left around the house or who didn't take out the garbage. What you will hear behind those words is a cry for attention. "Listen to me...I still matter. I'm still me." When you realize the intention of most relationship arguments, it's easy to take a step back and include your lover in your communication. In a long term relationship, you can lose your identity very quickly. When both lovers say "I hear you" the balance of communication takes place.
Most relationship articles will tell you that listening is the most important part of communication. But beyond just listening, an acknowledgment has to take place. The person you love so dear is crying for attention, not just from you...remember you are the one who pays the most attention to her, but from the world. Bonding the strength of a long term commitment means to create a team. One that sets you apart from the rest of the world. One that tells your lover that you are not only "there for them," but there for each other. We need to know that are partner has our back, understands the things we feel and knows wholeheartedly that we are an inseparable team.
It's easy to get up in the little things. Seeing the big picture takes a little more discipline. But the payoff is huge! Can you hear the words of your partner and what they are really saying? Of course you can...that's why you love them.
How do you create an everlasting quality for your relationship today? For nearly 20 years one man, Colin Martin, has searched for and found the number one secret to building an exceptional romantic relationship. The answer doesn't lie in the endless volumes of self help books and repetitive talk shows, but within yourself!
When typical fights break out what do you really hear? It's not just complaints about who left the toilet seat down, dirty socks left around the house or who didn't take out the garbage. What you will hear behind those words is a cry for attention. "Listen to me...I still matter. I'm still me." When you realize the intention of most relationship arguments, it's easy to take a step back and include your lover in your communication. In a long term relationship, you can lose your identity very quickly. When both lovers say "I hear you" the balance of communication takes place.
Most relationship articles will tell you that listening is the most important part of communication. But beyond just listening, an acknowledgment has to take place. The person you love so dear is crying for attention, not just from you...remember you are the one who pays the most attention to her, but from the world. Bonding the strength of a long term commitment means to create a team. One that sets you apart from the rest of the world. One that tells your lover that you are not only "there for them," but there for each other. We need to know that are partner has our back, understands the things we feel and knows wholeheartedly that we are an inseparable team.
It's easy to get up in the little things. Seeing the big picture takes a little more discipline. But the payoff is huge! Can you hear the words of your partner and what they are really saying? Of course you can...that's why you love them.
How do you create an everlasting quality for your relationship today? For nearly 20 years one man, Colin Martin, has searched for and found the number one secret to building an exceptional romantic relationship. The answer doesn't lie in the endless volumes of self help books and repetitive talk shows, but within yourself!
