When you go through a break up, it can feel as your life is over.
You don't want to do anything or see anyone, except for that special person who is no longer part of your life.
But is it really necessary to accept and move on? In many cases, a few simple steps can restart the relationship and get you back where you want to be-with your ex.
So what can you do? Firstly, don't bombard your ex with texts and messages.
Give her some space.
She is feeling hurt too and needs a bit of space and time to see things more clearly.
Nobody enjoys the feeling of being pressured and this will simply close the door definitively on any chance of getting back together.
Don't try to get back in her favour through her family and friends.
Your ex will again feel pressured, and this is not what you want.
However, you don't want to cut all links because this will make it all the more difficult to resume a normal relationship when you do manage to get her back.
After a cooling off period, call.
Your aim here is not to beg, apologise, or even to talk about the relationship and what went wrong.
You just want your ex to hear your voice again and start to remember the qualities that she appreciated in you.
Don't keep calling.
Once is enough to start.
After this first contact, let a few days go by.
You want to avoid seeming needy at all costs.
Finally, suggest meeting up.
You want to avoid making this seem like a date.
Going out with a group of friends or to a public place can be a great idea here.
Keep the meeting relaxed, but don't be too pushy and unless the signals are extremely obvious, don't push your luck at the end of the day!