Did You Cheat? - 3 Things To Do To Get Your Ex Back
The way I think of it, there are two flavors of cheating.
The first kind is where you cheated briefly in a one night stand, or just slept with someone not important to you a few times.
The second kind is where you had a longer-lasting affair with someone you cared about and connected with emotionally.
Either way, when your partner finds out you cheated, it will be devastating. Cheating hurts because it is a violation of the trust that is supposed to exist between two people in a relationship.
Here are 3 things you should do to get your ex back, if your ex broke up with you because of your infidelity.
1. Cease all contact with the person you cheated with. If you really want to get back together with your ex, you have to accept that you can't see your other lover any more. If you're not willing to do that, don't bother trying.
2. Apologize to your ex, in writing. In addition to saying you are sorry, make sure you also state that you understand why your ex feels unable to trust you any more, and that you want to work hard to earn back that trust.
3. Create a one month plan for building trust. During that month, make 5 promises to your ex, and keep them.
You have to actually communicate each promise to your ex, before you live up to it. I mean, don't just do 5 nice things. Actually tell your ex you're going to, for example, take the car for a tune-up. And then do it. No excuses, just do it.
By starting with small promises and then moving on to more important ones, you will increasingly demonstrate your reliability and rebuild your partner's trust in you.
I'm not saying this is ALL you have to do in order to get your ex back, but I truly do believe following these steps will increase your chances.
The first kind is where you cheated briefly in a one night stand, or just slept with someone not important to you a few times.
The second kind is where you had a longer-lasting affair with someone you cared about and connected with emotionally.
Either way, when your partner finds out you cheated, it will be devastating. Cheating hurts because it is a violation of the trust that is supposed to exist between two people in a relationship.
Here are 3 things you should do to get your ex back, if your ex broke up with you because of your infidelity.
1. Cease all contact with the person you cheated with. If you really want to get back together with your ex, you have to accept that you can't see your other lover any more. If you're not willing to do that, don't bother trying.
2. Apologize to your ex, in writing. In addition to saying you are sorry, make sure you also state that you understand why your ex feels unable to trust you any more, and that you want to work hard to earn back that trust.
3. Create a one month plan for building trust. During that month, make 5 promises to your ex, and keep them.
You have to actually communicate each promise to your ex, before you live up to it. I mean, don't just do 5 nice things. Actually tell your ex you're going to, for example, take the car for a tune-up. And then do it. No excuses, just do it.
By starting with small promises and then moving on to more important ones, you will increasingly demonstrate your reliability and rebuild your partner's trust in you.
I'm not saying this is ALL you have to do in order to get your ex back, but I truly do believe following these steps will increase your chances.
