Law of Love
There are spiritual laws that guide our lives. There has been a great deal of media attention to the Law of Attraction in recent years. There is another spiritual law, less talked about, but possibly even more important to our lives and relationships. That is the law of love.
The basic principle, as we have come to understand it, is that love is defined as the free gift of our attention. Instinctively we know this is true. For instance a parent of two young children notices that everyone is self-entertained for the moment. She picks up the phone to make a phone call that she has wanted to make, and what happens? Suddenly everyone needs her. The kids are asking her for things, or crying or fighting or in some other way demanding her attention. Why? Children understand instinctively that love and attention or synonymous and that her attention is at the moment focused on something else.
Why do love relationships often seem to fade? Because we stop bringing the same quality of attention to the other person as we did in our early years together. Here is the great news! We have to ability to use the law of love to bring back those feelings of love in our intimate relationships. If we want to feel more love in a relationship or if we want to maintain the loving feelings that we have, we need to bring our positive attention to the other person, freely and without trying to get something out of it.
There are many techniques we can use to do this. In the book, You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Married, by Brett Williams "Mr. Marriage" describes the One Minute Miracle. This is a meditation exercise to help you feel connected, bring attention, and generate the feelings of love.
Begin the exercise by rating how close you feel to your partner on a scale of 0-10. A zero would mean you feel hostile and disconnected while a ten would mean you feel very connected. Find a picture of your partner, or simply picture them in your mind.
Sit in a comfortable place and become aware of your breathing. Release tension using a few exhaled breaths. Look at the picture of your partner. If any negative feelings come up release them with an exhaled breath. Once your head and heart are clear; start bringing your partner your full attention. Notice their eyes and their smile. Use your inhaled breaths to draw in these positive feelings. Now think about the positive aspects of your partner. What were you first attracted to? Imagine holding their hand, telling them you love them. Remember a specific positive memory. For the entire minute focus on thinking loving and appreciate thoughts about your mate. Continue to breathe in the positive feelings about your mate and continue to exhale the negative feelings. Say your mate's name and feel the connection. When finished again rate your feelings of closeness. Have you moved up the scale? If not, go back and note how much attention was available for this activity. The more energy and attention you bring to this exercise, the more effective it will be.
Sometimes there is one particular conflict that is keeping you and the one you love from giving each other positive attention. If you are stuck in a particular issue, you would benefit from our online phone dialogue assistance at http://www.helptalking.com we help you and the person you are having a conflict with, have a conversation and resolve the conflict. It is tech support for your relationship. Resolving this one conflict can put you on the road to fully utilizing the law of love in your life.
The law of love is simple. The more positive attention we bring to someone or something, the more love we will feel. If we want to feel more love in a relationship, we should bring more attention to it. This is the law of love. More exercises for increasing your loving feelings can be found in You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Married, by Brett R. Williams available at http://www.helptalking.com. We provide Online Marriage and Phone CounselingOnline Marriage and Phone Counseling and other resources.
The basic principle, as we have come to understand it, is that love is defined as the free gift of our attention. Instinctively we know this is true. For instance a parent of two young children notices that everyone is self-entertained for the moment. She picks up the phone to make a phone call that she has wanted to make, and what happens? Suddenly everyone needs her. The kids are asking her for things, or crying or fighting or in some other way demanding her attention. Why? Children understand instinctively that love and attention or synonymous and that her attention is at the moment focused on something else.
Why do love relationships often seem to fade? Because we stop bringing the same quality of attention to the other person as we did in our early years together. Here is the great news! We have to ability to use the law of love to bring back those feelings of love in our intimate relationships. If we want to feel more love in a relationship or if we want to maintain the loving feelings that we have, we need to bring our positive attention to the other person, freely and without trying to get something out of it.
There are many techniques we can use to do this. In the book, You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Married, by Brett Williams "Mr. Marriage" describes the One Minute Miracle. This is a meditation exercise to help you feel connected, bring attention, and generate the feelings of love.
Begin the exercise by rating how close you feel to your partner on a scale of 0-10. A zero would mean you feel hostile and disconnected while a ten would mean you feel very connected. Find a picture of your partner, or simply picture them in your mind.
Sit in a comfortable place and become aware of your breathing. Release tension using a few exhaled breaths. Look at the picture of your partner. If any negative feelings come up release them with an exhaled breath. Once your head and heart are clear; start bringing your partner your full attention. Notice their eyes and their smile. Use your inhaled breaths to draw in these positive feelings. Now think about the positive aspects of your partner. What were you first attracted to? Imagine holding their hand, telling them you love them. Remember a specific positive memory. For the entire minute focus on thinking loving and appreciate thoughts about your mate. Continue to breathe in the positive feelings about your mate and continue to exhale the negative feelings. Say your mate's name and feel the connection. When finished again rate your feelings of closeness. Have you moved up the scale? If not, go back and note how much attention was available for this activity. The more energy and attention you bring to this exercise, the more effective it will be.
Sometimes there is one particular conflict that is keeping you and the one you love from giving each other positive attention. If you are stuck in a particular issue, you would benefit from our online phone dialogue assistance at http://www.helptalking.com we help you and the person you are having a conflict with, have a conversation and resolve the conflict. It is tech support for your relationship. Resolving this one conflict can put you on the road to fully utilizing the law of love in your life.
The law of love is simple. The more positive attention we bring to someone or something, the more love we will feel. If we want to feel more love in a relationship, we should bring more attention to it. This is the law of love. More exercises for increasing your loving feelings can be found in You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Married, by Brett R. Williams available at http://www.helptalking.com. We provide Online Marriage and Phone CounselingOnline Marriage and Phone Counseling and other resources.
