How to Deal With a Break Up - What to Do When Your Ex Has Just Broken Up With You
Panic sets in when we break up and if your ex is the one that broke up with you, then you are more than likely going through a world of hurt, angry and maybe even confused.
Not knowing how to deal with a break up is leaving you left feeling completely hopeless.
Well that's what this article is for, to give you guidance.
So what now? Well the answer to this depends on whether or not you want your ex back.
If you don't want them back in your life, give yourself some time to yourself to grieve the loss of your relationship, then enjoy being single again.
Don't even waste your time trying to get revenge on your ex for breaking up with you, just enjoy your life and don't bother with them, they aren't worth it.
However if you really want your ex back in your life and feel that your behavior contributed to the break up, there are a few things you can do to make dealing with a break up more bearable.
You first want your ex to know how you feel.
Don't get too emotional with this, it is best to sit down and write a handwritten letter, apologizing for anything you did to contribute to the break up, and remind your ex of the good times you shared together.
Don't be afraid to let your ex know how much they mean to you and how much you miss them, but like I said before, don't get to emotional.
You can let them know how you feel, but don't have to beg for forgiveness through the letter.
Going with the assumption that the letter goes over well, agree to meet with your ex in a public place.
This helps to prevent discussions from becoming too heated and arguments erupting from them.
You will need to be prepared to tell your ex how you feel.
Don't hide your feelings at this point.
If you are angry let them know, but try not to turn this meeting into a blame fest.
In learning how to deal with a break up it is vital to learn how to accept criticism.
You ex may at this point come back with some criticism of their own.
Don't take it too personally, we do all have faults, and as hurtful as it may sound, but some of these may be partially responsible for the break up.
It is very important to make sure and listen to what your ex has to say.
Don't assume you know what they want to say.
Encourage your ex to say what is on their mind as it is right here, right now, that you both have the opportunity to work through any relationship issues that you have come across and will be able to come out of this a stronger couple.
Don't play games with your ex, don't feel that you have to hold anything back in order to get your ex to come back to you after the break up.
This only causes resentment which down the road to result in a break up again.
All couples go through rough patches, it is quite normal.
Follow these tips and one day down the road, you and your lover will be thankful for the break up as you learned how to deal with a break up as an adult and how to make your relationship stronger as a result.
Not knowing how to deal with a break up is leaving you left feeling completely hopeless.
Well that's what this article is for, to give you guidance.
So what now? Well the answer to this depends on whether or not you want your ex back.
If you don't want them back in your life, give yourself some time to yourself to grieve the loss of your relationship, then enjoy being single again.
Don't even waste your time trying to get revenge on your ex for breaking up with you, just enjoy your life and don't bother with them, they aren't worth it.
However if you really want your ex back in your life and feel that your behavior contributed to the break up, there are a few things you can do to make dealing with a break up more bearable.
You first want your ex to know how you feel.
Don't get too emotional with this, it is best to sit down and write a handwritten letter, apologizing for anything you did to contribute to the break up, and remind your ex of the good times you shared together.
Don't be afraid to let your ex know how much they mean to you and how much you miss them, but like I said before, don't get to emotional.
You can let them know how you feel, but don't have to beg for forgiveness through the letter.
Going with the assumption that the letter goes over well, agree to meet with your ex in a public place.
This helps to prevent discussions from becoming too heated and arguments erupting from them.
You will need to be prepared to tell your ex how you feel.
Don't hide your feelings at this point.
If you are angry let them know, but try not to turn this meeting into a blame fest.
In learning how to deal with a break up it is vital to learn how to accept criticism.
You ex may at this point come back with some criticism of their own.
Don't take it too personally, we do all have faults, and as hurtful as it may sound, but some of these may be partially responsible for the break up.
It is very important to make sure and listen to what your ex has to say.
Don't assume you know what they want to say.
Encourage your ex to say what is on their mind as it is right here, right now, that you both have the opportunity to work through any relationship issues that you have come across and will be able to come out of this a stronger couple.
Don't play games with your ex, don't feel that you have to hold anything back in order to get your ex to come back to you after the break up.
This only causes resentment which down the road to result in a break up again.
All couples go through rough patches, it is quite normal.
Follow these tips and one day down the road, you and your lover will be thankful for the break up as you learned how to deal with a break up as an adult and how to make your relationship stronger as a result.
