You're confused and depressed.
I know that because I've been there not long ago and I felt the destruction.
I dialed my ex, tried to bribe, plead and convince him to return.
I've done it all, so I truly can feel you.
But thanks God I avoided one brutal pitfall that would otherwise cost me my lifetime love and happiness.
So I want to warn you: do this - and you've lost them for keeps.
This mistake is...
Drumroll...
Stalking and Chasing Them, Going Dahmer on Them.
This is completely understandable that you want them back.
I can absolutely "get the thing" of why you want to start stalking them.
Maybe you're feeling nervous for their security without you (well, at least I felt it), maybe you want to control their personal life - after all, what if they start to date again?! If so, you better know it...
And so on and so forth...
But...
Let me tell you couple things: 1.
You DON'T get the real control of the situation (I realized that after I'd tried to do that for two-three days or so...
Thanks goodness he didn't notice!).
You basically just indulge in your anxious urges thus feeding your tension and dipping yourself, wallowing in the negative emotions even more.
So don't.
Or - check it and see for yourself.
It surely won't work.
2.
This method is illegal and you're walking "on the edge".
Not good, not good at all - this is not the thing you want the most, right? At least I hope so.
3.
If they notice, they will lose respect for you, reinforce the decision of leaving you and repel form you further...
Maybe forever.
Assuming this and taking the possible outcomes into consideration, I would not make this fault and recommendation to you is: avoid it at any costs.
It's simply not worth your while.