Discover What Not To Do To If You Are Still Hoping To Get Your Ex Back!
There is no doubt that you are feeling as if you are the only person who feels the way you do right now.
There are feelings of anxiety, despair, and of course, the terrible guilt that follows after a breakup.
You must understand though, that people have been going through breakups for centuries, so your situation is really not unique.
It is because of this that experts have made in-depth studies into as to how to get your ex back after your relationship has failed.
Over the years, they have found that there are certain things that work after a breakup, and those that don't.
Unfortunately, because of human nature, people usually end up doing things that they feel are right, when in actual fact they are only causing more damage to the delicate circumstances.
The object of this article is to help you to avoid making the same mistakes that so many people make after a failed relationship.
The tendency is for you to do your utmost to try to make contact with your ex.
Although you imagine this to be the right thing to do, the following should make you realize that it is in fact, absolutely wrong, and will not get your ex back.
The actions to avoid at all costs are: 1.
Stalking.
You are in such a state of despair that you are trying everything, all the time, to make contact with your ex.
To you, this is the only thing that will get your ex back.
You must understand though, that what you are actually doing is stalking your ex.
Only mentally unstable people do this when they are desperate to talk to someone.
Instead of having your ex become eager to talk to you, this will have precisely the opposite effect, and will force your ex to take action against you, to stop the incessant calls and messages.
It could go so far as to make your ex get a restraining order against you.
Another usual reaction after a breakup is to wallow in self-pity and shut yourself off from the world.
In the beginning, those around you will feel extremely sorry for you.
However, it is also human nature to become bored with certain things, and unfortunately, if you try to take your state of depression too far, you could find yourself more alone than ever! 2.
Misery and Isolation.
Yes, you are terribly upset about the break up, but the more you concentrate on how miserable you are, the worse your situation becomes.
What you are essentially doing is convincing yourself that things are so negative now that you are broken up, and you WANT to wallow in self-pity.
This becomes worse when you cut yourself off from the people around you.
Your family and friends are probably very worried about you, and want to support you in your time of need, and you are intent on shutting them out.
Carry on like this for too long though, and there is a good chance that they will begin to ignore your attitude of self-destruction, and simply get on with their own lives.
Believe it or not, but you need them to get your ex back.
You have to take the first positive steps to get your ex back - no one else can do this for you.
As soon as you show your family and friends that you are willing to do something positive about your awful circumstances, they will rally around and help you in any way that they can.
They will support you all the way.
There are feelings of anxiety, despair, and of course, the terrible guilt that follows after a breakup.
You must understand though, that people have been going through breakups for centuries, so your situation is really not unique.
It is because of this that experts have made in-depth studies into as to how to get your ex back after your relationship has failed.
Over the years, they have found that there are certain things that work after a breakup, and those that don't.
Unfortunately, because of human nature, people usually end up doing things that they feel are right, when in actual fact they are only causing more damage to the delicate circumstances.
The object of this article is to help you to avoid making the same mistakes that so many people make after a failed relationship.
The tendency is for you to do your utmost to try to make contact with your ex.
Although you imagine this to be the right thing to do, the following should make you realize that it is in fact, absolutely wrong, and will not get your ex back.
The actions to avoid at all costs are: 1.
Stalking.
You are in such a state of despair that you are trying everything, all the time, to make contact with your ex.
To you, this is the only thing that will get your ex back.
You must understand though, that what you are actually doing is stalking your ex.
Only mentally unstable people do this when they are desperate to talk to someone.
Instead of having your ex become eager to talk to you, this will have precisely the opposite effect, and will force your ex to take action against you, to stop the incessant calls and messages.
It could go so far as to make your ex get a restraining order against you.
Another usual reaction after a breakup is to wallow in self-pity and shut yourself off from the world.
In the beginning, those around you will feel extremely sorry for you.
However, it is also human nature to become bored with certain things, and unfortunately, if you try to take your state of depression too far, you could find yourself more alone than ever! 2.
Misery and Isolation.
Yes, you are terribly upset about the break up, but the more you concentrate on how miserable you are, the worse your situation becomes.
What you are essentially doing is convincing yourself that things are so negative now that you are broken up, and you WANT to wallow in self-pity.
This becomes worse when you cut yourself off from the people around you.
Your family and friends are probably very worried about you, and want to support you in your time of need, and you are intent on shutting them out.
Carry on like this for too long though, and there is a good chance that they will begin to ignore your attitude of self-destruction, and simply get on with their own lives.
Believe it or not, but you need them to get your ex back.
You have to take the first positive steps to get your ex back - no one else can do this for you.
As soon as you show your family and friends that you are willing to do something positive about your awful circumstances, they will rally around and help you in any way that they can.
They will support you all the way.
