IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP OVER?.....ACCEPTANCE
"Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance
can there be recovery." -Joanne Kathleen Rowling
The first step in letting go of a relationship is accepting the fact that
it's over. At first this can be a hard pill to swallow because it's
difficult to let go of the hopes and dreams that you've had with someone.
We typically try everything we can to hold onto someone that we've
invested so much of our time, our hearts and our lives together. There
is no question that letting go is painful and we try to avoid that pain
by believing we can make things work.
But...the sooner you are honest with yourself that "it's over" the sooner
you will begin the process of moving on. You may not like it. You may
wish things had worked out differently. You may even want to get back
together. But, it's not until you face the reality that your life with this
person has ended that you will begin to pick up the pieces and move on.
You may go over in your mind how things could've been, you may constantly
fill your mind with thoughts of the past, how you should've done this or
if only you had done that, etc. Going over and over what happened will only
keep you stuck in yesterday.
Learn from the mistakes that were made in this relationship, use them
as tools to learn from your past and these lessons will help you to have a
better future.
When you really want something and you invest so much time in trying to
make things work, it's human nature to feel bad if the outcome isn't what
you desired.
It's okay to have dreams. It's the beginning of knowing what you want from life.
Your dreams can and will be fulfilled, the only difference is; your dreams will
be fulfilled with someone else.
Once you accept that things will never work out with this person is the time
that you will begin the process of moving on from this heartache; and that
is the first step in letting go.
Look at this with your eyes wide open, tell yourself the truth about the situation
and don't fill yourself with a false sense of hope. Accept reality and it will
set you free.
Facing the end of hope and then moving past it is the beginning of acceptance.
Remember, the end is a "new" beginning. You will survive!
can there be recovery." -Joanne Kathleen Rowling
The first step in letting go of a relationship is accepting the fact that
it's over. At first this can be a hard pill to swallow because it's
difficult to let go of the hopes and dreams that you've had with someone.
We typically try everything we can to hold onto someone that we've
invested so much of our time, our hearts and our lives together. There
is no question that letting go is painful and we try to avoid that pain
by believing we can make things work.
But...the sooner you are honest with yourself that "it's over" the sooner
you will begin the process of moving on. You may not like it. You may
wish things had worked out differently. You may even want to get back
together. But, it's not until you face the reality that your life with this
person has ended that you will begin to pick up the pieces and move on.
You may go over in your mind how things could've been, you may constantly
fill your mind with thoughts of the past, how you should've done this or
if only you had done that, etc. Going over and over what happened will only
keep you stuck in yesterday.
Learn from the mistakes that were made in this relationship, use them
as tools to learn from your past and these lessons will help you to have a
better future.
When you really want something and you invest so much time in trying to
make things work, it's human nature to feel bad if the outcome isn't what
you desired.
It's okay to have dreams. It's the beginning of knowing what you want from life.
Your dreams can and will be fulfilled, the only difference is; your dreams will
be fulfilled with someone else.
Once you accept that things will never work out with this person is the time
that you will begin the process of moving on from this heartache; and that
is the first step in letting go.
Look at this with your eyes wide open, tell yourself the truth about the situation
and don't fill yourself with a false sense of hope. Accept reality and it will
set you free.
Facing the end of hope and then moving past it is the beginning of acceptance.
Remember, the end is a "new" beginning. You will survive!
