What Men Want In A Woman No 48: A Boss
What men want in a woman is a boss.
Wait a second.
If you're working, you would know how unbearable a boss can be.
They can be commanding, overbearing and just plain rude.
Still, you have to be respectful towards him and do what he says, lest he/she fires you.
If your man treats you as that sort of boss, there's not much he would get out of that.
The relationship would be somewhat one-sided and he wouldn't be really happy.
What I will explain are the three "boss" traits you should get used to exhibiting if you want your marriage to be stronger than ever.
1.
Permission Your man respects you.
He doesn't make you do anything he doesn't want you to do.
Because he respects you, this also means that you're in a position to allow or deny him from doing certain things.
This might not come in the form of a solid "yes" or "no", it could simply be that he's letting you know that he's doing something.
If he's at least telling you, he is still getting your approval in some form.
2.
Reward We are all externally and internally motivated in some way.
Some of us are more motivated in a particular manner.
At any rate, we all know that we like to be rewarded, which is can come as external motivation.
Bosses reward good workers by giving them a raise.
Obviously you're not paying your man to be married to you, but if you reward him occasionally, he will respect what you give him and it will have a high perceived value.
3.
Punishment Believe it or not, men actually need punishment.
If I'm out of line, it's better that my wife gets angry at me and lets me know that she's displeased.
If I'm free to do whatever I want, then I don't respect her as much.
A lot of women find it hard to do this, especially if their man is the dominant one.
Ladies, it's worth the short-term pain for the long-term benefit you get out of doing it.
Tell him off, give him the cold shoulder...
whatever it takes to deprive him of your affection, albeit temporarily.
What men want in a woman is someone who knows how to be a boss to them.
It's not about being bossy and hard to deal with, it's about moderating your own behaviour to be a good boss.
Someone who is rewards good behaviour and hard work and punishes if the person is slack.
This will lead to respect for the boss in the long term.
Respect ultimately leads to love too.
Wait a second.
If you're working, you would know how unbearable a boss can be.
They can be commanding, overbearing and just plain rude.
Still, you have to be respectful towards him and do what he says, lest he/she fires you.
If your man treats you as that sort of boss, there's not much he would get out of that.
The relationship would be somewhat one-sided and he wouldn't be really happy.
What I will explain are the three "boss" traits you should get used to exhibiting if you want your marriage to be stronger than ever.
1.
Permission Your man respects you.
He doesn't make you do anything he doesn't want you to do.
Because he respects you, this also means that you're in a position to allow or deny him from doing certain things.
This might not come in the form of a solid "yes" or "no", it could simply be that he's letting you know that he's doing something.
If he's at least telling you, he is still getting your approval in some form.
2.
Reward We are all externally and internally motivated in some way.
Some of us are more motivated in a particular manner.
At any rate, we all know that we like to be rewarded, which is can come as external motivation.
Bosses reward good workers by giving them a raise.
Obviously you're not paying your man to be married to you, but if you reward him occasionally, he will respect what you give him and it will have a high perceived value.
3.
Punishment Believe it or not, men actually need punishment.
If I'm out of line, it's better that my wife gets angry at me and lets me know that she's displeased.
If I'm free to do whatever I want, then I don't respect her as much.
A lot of women find it hard to do this, especially if their man is the dominant one.
Ladies, it's worth the short-term pain for the long-term benefit you get out of doing it.
Tell him off, give him the cold shoulder...
whatever it takes to deprive him of your affection, albeit temporarily.
What men want in a woman is someone who knows how to be a boss to them.
It's not about being bossy and hard to deal with, it's about moderating your own behaviour to be a good boss.
Someone who is rewards good behaviour and hard work and punishes if the person is slack.
This will lead to respect for the boss in the long term.
Respect ultimately leads to love too.
