Saving a Marriage - Is it Possible?
Why do some marriages break up while others seem to weather every storm? Have you ever wondered if you really have what it takes to keep your marriage together no matter what? I believe it is possible to save most marriages.
And I believe that if you are seeking advice on this topic then you probably do have what it takes to save your marriage.
The most important thing you can possess right now is the desire to save your marriage.
If it is truly important to you then I believe you will do the hard work that it may take to save your marriage.
Right now, I would like to share some ideas which hopefully will help you begin to restore your marriage relationship.
I once saw an elderly couple interviewed (they had been married for 50 years) and they were asked if they had any advice to share with younger couples or with couples who were struggling.
The husband said, "make sure she knows that she is beautiful and special and loved" and the wife said, "just accept him the way he is and don't try to change him".
I think this is great advice.
Let's look at the advice given by the husband.
"Make your wife feel beautiful and special and loved.
" Husbands, wives need this from you.
Your words of love and admiration will go a long way but don't forget to show your wife that you love her too.
This can be done in many ways.
For example, when you are out with her you hold her gaze and smile or wink.
You hold her hand and open doors for her.
And when you are at home with her you give her your attention when she needs to talk.
I'm sure you can think of many other ways to make sure your wife knows how special she is to you.
This is not the kind of thing that you can do for awhile and then think it is enough.
This needs to be ongoing.
Now, let's look at the advice given by the wife.
"Just accept him the way he is and don't try to change him.
" Wives, how many of us are guilty of trying to change our husbands? I know we think that we are changing them for the better but the husband sees it this way: "why can't they just love and accept me the way I am?" This struggle to change them just causes frustration to the husband and the wife.
Men and women are different, and really women, don't we want our husbands to be men.
If we can learn to accept them (everything about them) then we will actually bring more peace into the marriage.
Of course wives are welcome to make their husbands feel handsome and special and loved.
And husband are welcome to accept their wives just the way they are and don't try to change them.
It can't hurt.
I invite you to apply the advice given by this elderly couple.
I believe it is wise and very practical.
And, I believe it may possibly save your marriage.
And I believe that if you are seeking advice on this topic then you probably do have what it takes to save your marriage.
The most important thing you can possess right now is the desire to save your marriage.
If it is truly important to you then I believe you will do the hard work that it may take to save your marriage.
Right now, I would like to share some ideas which hopefully will help you begin to restore your marriage relationship.
I once saw an elderly couple interviewed (they had been married for 50 years) and they were asked if they had any advice to share with younger couples or with couples who were struggling.
The husband said, "make sure she knows that she is beautiful and special and loved" and the wife said, "just accept him the way he is and don't try to change him".
I think this is great advice.
Let's look at the advice given by the husband.
"Make your wife feel beautiful and special and loved.
" Husbands, wives need this from you.
Your words of love and admiration will go a long way but don't forget to show your wife that you love her too.
This can be done in many ways.
For example, when you are out with her you hold her gaze and smile or wink.
You hold her hand and open doors for her.
And when you are at home with her you give her your attention when she needs to talk.
I'm sure you can think of many other ways to make sure your wife knows how special she is to you.
This is not the kind of thing that you can do for awhile and then think it is enough.
This needs to be ongoing.
Now, let's look at the advice given by the wife.
"Just accept him the way he is and don't try to change him.
" Wives, how many of us are guilty of trying to change our husbands? I know we think that we are changing them for the better but the husband sees it this way: "why can't they just love and accept me the way I am?" This struggle to change them just causes frustration to the husband and the wife.
Men and women are different, and really women, don't we want our husbands to be men.
If we can learn to accept them (everything about them) then we will actually bring more peace into the marriage.
Of course wives are welcome to make their husbands feel handsome and special and loved.
And husband are welcome to accept their wives just the way they are and don't try to change them.
It can't hurt.
I invite you to apply the advice given by this elderly couple.
I believe it is wise and very practical.
And, I believe it may possibly save your marriage.
