Nothing hurts more than realizing your ex meant everything to you, but you meant nothing to him or her.
I know it's hard to tell your mind to stop loving someone when your heart still does; therefore, if you want to win your ex back you have to understand that the break up didn't happen by chance.
There are mainly 2 reasons why relationships come to an end: 1) Something was wrong in the relationship.
If you have cheated on your ex or done something that really upset them, you need to make an effective apology or else your ex will never forgive you fully.
They need to know that you understand how bad they felt when it happened.
When you do apologize, avoid saying things like "it was nothing".
This shows that you are not congruent with what they feel.
2) There was a loss of attraction in the relationship; your ex is simply not that into you anymore.
Has your ex mentioned the following? - I'm not sure I want this anymore.
- I think I should meet more people and try different things before I settle down.
- I feel like I'm not ready to commit yet.
- It's not you...
it's me...
There are 101 other variations but the underlying reason is the same: your ex is no longer attracted to you.
Your ex was attracted to you at the beginning of your relationship but as the relationship progressed, you began to lose some, if not all of the attractive traits.
If you want to win your ex back, you need to become an attractive person again.