Slowly But Surely Destroy Approach Anxiety And Get The Girls You Want
Approach anxiety is a subconscious response to a perceived threat.
Huh? This means that when you see a hot girl, your brain fires up its neurology.
It simultaneously imagines the best case and worst case scenario.
Best case is when she grabs you, kisses you, goes down on you in front of everybody, and gives you the thrill of your life.
Worst case is she laughs at you, throws a drink in your face, and everybody in the places watches in amusement, taking pictures with their cell phones as her boyfriends give you the beat down of a lifetime.
Obviously, both of these have almost a zero chance of happening.
But our brains will fire up both of these, just to prepare ourselves anyhow.
That's why you feel compelled and terrified at the same time.
How do you get over this? Give your brain something else to think about.
The brain has a couple of choices when looking at events out there in the world.
One of them is to rely on evolutionary programming.
This is the "flight of fight" response.
The other choice is to look for evidence in your history.
That's what this process does.
You will slowly build up a history to rely on, rather than your evolutionary programming.
Start off by doing what's comfortable, then slowly expand on your success.
Wherever you are now, practice doing that as often as you can.
For example, if you are comfortable making eye contact, then make eye contact and smile.
Once that becomes comfortable, make eye contact, smile, and say "hello.
" Once that's comfortable, do something a little bit more aggressive.
Now, this may take a while, and in fact it will, consider what you are building.
You are building an incredible resourceful response to attractive women that will serve you for your entire life.
Even if takes you a year before you're comfortable walking up and talking to girls and getting their number, imagine what that will allow you accomplish.
More dates, more success, more girlfriends, and a much more exciting life.
Guys that have taken the time to go through this exercise know that it won't only increase your skills with girls, but your skills with life.
You'll make more money, become much more socially outgoing, and be able to accomplish a lot more in life.
All you've got to do is start wherever you are now, and take small daily steps.
The sooner you get started, the sooner you'll start to realize incredible success that only comes through taking consistent action.
Huh? This means that when you see a hot girl, your brain fires up its neurology.
It simultaneously imagines the best case and worst case scenario.
Best case is when she grabs you, kisses you, goes down on you in front of everybody, and gives you the thrill of your life.
Worst case is she laughs at you, throws a drink in your face, and everybody in the places watches in amusement, taking pictures with their cell phones as her boyfriends give you the beat down of a lifetime.
Obviously, both of these have almost a zero chance of happening.
But our brains will fire up both of these, just to prepare ourselves anyhow.
That's why you feel compelled and terrified at the same time.
How do you get over this? Give your brain something else to think about.
The brain has a couple of choices when looking at events out there in the world.
One of them is to rely on evolutionary programming.
This is the "flight of fight" response.
The other choice is to look for evidence in your history.
That's what this process does.
You will slowly build up a history to rely on, rather than your evolutionary programming.
Start off by doing what's comfortable, then slowly expand on your success.
Wherever you are now, practice doing that as often as you can.
For example, if you are comfortable making eye contact, then make eye contact and smile.
Once that becomes comfortable, make eye contact, smile, and say "hello.
" Once that's comfortable, do something a little bit more aggressive.
Now, this may take a while, and in fact it will, consider what you are building.
You are building an incredible resourceful response to attractive women that will serve you for your entire life.
Even if takes you a year before you're comfortable walking up and talking to girls and getting their number, imagine what that will allow you accomplish.
More dates, more success, more girlfriends, and a much more exciting life.
Guys that have taken the time to go through this exercise know that it won't only increase your skills with girls, but your skills with life.
You'll make more money, become much more socially outgoing, and be able to accomplish a lot more in life.
All you've got to do is start wherever you are now, and take small daily steps.
The sooner you get started, the sooner you'll start to realize incredible success that only comes through taking consistent action.
