There is Life After A Breakup With Your Ex Girlfriend
Life is a tapestry of our rich and complex experiences, happy and sad, triumphant or tragic. Almost everybody has gone through a broken heart at least once in his/her lifetime. During this time, one goes through a gamut of emotions - resentment, feeling of loss, indignation, and agonizing hurt. Some men are just not about to throw in the towel and accept their lot sitting down and would want to reverse the situation. However if what you want is just to forget about this chapter of your life and move on, you might have to take on a number of things to make this possible.
Just as trying to make amends to your ex girlfriend in the hope of winning her back is a tough challenge, trying to move on without her is equally difficult. You will have to erase all thoughts pertaining to her, deal with your daily routines especially those that you use to do together and hope that the next time you meet each other will not put you on a so awkward situation.
The phase right after the breakup will be the one of your most challenging times and as your family and friends suffuse you with their constant ministrations, you are both grateful and irritated as you want to be alone in your misery momentarily and be able to deal with it like a man. However, you know in your heart that they mean well and in fact will make moving on a lot easier.
Some people deal with hurt by retreating within themselves. Ironically, instead of trying to rise above the situation, they wallow in self-pity and their misery. Perhaps, after the break-up, it is just a natural reaction to feel sad over your loss but the sooner you can pull your self up the better so that you can start working on getting over your ex girlfriend. Engage in different activities. Pursue other interests, and this time, involve your family and friends. This will not only keep your mind occupied, it will also contribute in the enhancement of your personality to give you more self-confidence in your endeavor to move on.
You can find some advice from family or friends helpful but your attitude towards the entire situation will be the key you to your deliverance. First and foremost, you have to realize that you are now on your own for the moment and there is a new life waiting to be lived. Then you have to realize the real reasons for the breakup and what your part in it was. The experience can serve you well in your future relationships. Finally, regardless of who caused the breakup, you will have to be able to release yourself and your ex girlfriend from the culpability for the things that have been said and done. If you do not, it will be a baggage that will weigh you down and hamper the healing of your broken heart.
Just as trying to make amends to your ex girlfriend in the hope of winning her back is a tough challenge, trying to move on without her is equally difficult. You will have to erase all thoughts pertaining to her, deal with your daily routines especially those that you use to do together and hope that the next time you meet each other will not put you on a so awkward situation.
The phase right after the breakup will be the one of your most challenging times and as your family and friends suffuse you with their constant ministrations, you are both grateful and irritated as you want to be alone in your misery momentarily and be able to deal with it like a man. However, you know in your heart that they mean well and in fact will make moving on a lot easier.
Some people deal with hurt by retreating within themselves. Ironically, instead of trying to rise above the situation, they wallow in self-pity and their misery. Perhaps, after the break-up, it is just a natural reaction to feel sad over your loss but the sooner you can pull your self up the better so that you can start working on getting over your ex girlfriend. Engage in different activities. Pursue other interests, and this time, involve your family and friends. This will not only keep your mind occupied, it will also contribute in the enhancement of your personality to give you more self-confidence in your endeavor to move on.
You can find some advice from family or friends helpful but your attitude towards the entire situation will be the key you to your deliverance. First and foremost, you have to realize that you are now on your own for the moment and there is a new life waiting to be lived. Then you have to realize the real reasons for the breakup and what your part in it was. The experience can serve you well in your future relationships. Finally, regardless of who caused the breakup, you will have to be able to release yourself and your ex girlfriend from the culpability for the things that have been said and done. If you do not, it will be a baggage that will weigh you down and hamper the healing of your broken heart.
