Marrying a Citizen From the USA
Marrying a citizen from the USA is exciting, stressful and a bit scary. A person is coming into a foreign country they know nothing about with only their potential spouse to rely on for support. It is traumatic for many. There are ways to make sure your foreign spouse finds their place in society when arriving to the U.S.A.
1) Get details on their hobbies and anything else that can provide them entertainment. Recreate that enjoyable environment here in the USA. For example, if it is dancing, then find a studio close by your home where they can attend a few dancing classes each night. Maybe he or she likes to act, sports, cook, sew, fish, etc., the list goes on and on. The point is to recreate an environment for them that will provide a place of comfort.
2) Have a plan to keep the relationship moving forward. The first year together is extremely stressful and sometimes painful. The US Citizen may go through feelings of guilt. They may feel as if they have stolen their spouse away from family and friends. Often times the U.S citizen may feel they need to return the spouse to their own country. On the other hand, the foreign spouse will experience days of depression, excitement and longing for home. For 99.9% of all international relationships these kinds of issues will be a part of the first year together. The challenge is to move forward with patience, understanding and love. Keep reinforcing yourself and your new spouse that things will get better with time. A year together makes all the difference in the world. Above all do not give up.
3) Give your relationship time to build. If at all possible, wait to have children. Set the first year aside to concentrate on getting to know each other and helping each other find a place in the relationship. If children are part of the immediate plan, then take the necessary steps to still make time for each other. This becomes more difficult after the baby comes, but still just as important.
Use these simple steps to provide a starting point for the relationship. Work through the issues with patience and understanding. No matter how compatible a couple, there will be culture differences that will provide challenges. The couple needs to stay focused on why they are together and move forward together. Each day will become easier. Put one hundred and twenty percent into the relationship and the result will be a lifetime of happiness, love and contentment beyond words.
1) Get details on their hobbies and anything else that can provide them entertainment. Recreate that enjoyable environment here in the USA. For example, if it is dancing, then find a studio close by your home where they can attend a few dancing classes each night. Maybe he or she likes to act, sports, cook, sew, fish, etc., the list goes on and on. The point is to recreate an environment for them that will provide a place of comfort.
2) Have a plan to keep the relationship moving forward. The first year together is extremely stressful and sometimes painful. The US Citizen may go through feelings of guilt. They may feel as if they have stolen their spouse away from family and friends. Often times the U.S citizen may feel they need to return the spouse to their own country. On the other hand, the foreign spouse will experience days of depression, excitement and longing for home. For 99.9% of all international relationships these kinds of issues will be a part of the first year together. The challenge is to move forward with patience, understanding and love. Keep reinforcing yourself and your new spouse that things will get better with time. A year together makes all the difference in the world. Above all do not give up.
3) Give your relationship time to build. If at all possible, wait to have children. Set the first year aside to concentrate on getting to know each other and helping each other find a place in the relationship. If children are part of the immediate plan, then take the necessary steps to still make time for each other. This becomes more difficult after the baby comes, but still just as important.
Use these simple steps to provide a starting point for the relationship. Work through the issues with patience and understanding. No matter how compatible a couple, there will be culture differences that will provide challenges. The couple needs to stay focused on why they are together and move forward together. Each day will become easier. Put one hundred and twenty percent into the relationship and the result will be a lifetime of happiness, love and contentment beyond words.