How Can I Save My Relationship? Saving a Relationship is Possible by Taking the Right Steps
When we have a serious rift in a relationship, whether it be the result of infidelity, lack of attention, financial problems, or whatever the cause, we must first cool off before we can begin to assess the damage that actually exists between the two people involved.
When emotions have calmed, we can take steps to improve what has occurred, not before.
We must be honest and look deeply into the source of the problems in the relationship.
Both people must refrain from pointing fingers and insisting the other was the sole cause of the problem.
Both people in the relationship nearly always have some share in the creation of the source of the disagreement or breakup.
Most surface problems are the symptom of other deeper weaknesses in the fabric of the relationship.
Give each other space and do not try to force your partner to say or do anything that he or she is not ready, on their own, to do.
Trying to force your partner to do something before they are ready is perhaps the quickest way to damage your relationship beyond any hope of recovery.
Sometimes simply giving the other person the time and space they need is all that it takes to begin to move your relationship in the direction necessary for reconciliation.
Pushing or forcing usually only causes more anger and fear.
Work on yourself, perhaps first and foremost, before you begin to work on your relationship with your lover.
Read as much as possible from the wide variety of quality self and relationship development books.
Take time to write in a journal and meditate on what you are reading.
Apply this learning to what has happened in your relationship through thinking actively about what has happened.
Take care of yourself physically to regain inner peace.
As you go through this process on your own, slowly return to communication with your partner, keeping active LISTENING in the forefront of your communication with your partner.
With time and the right information, you can take the right steps together to save your relationship.
When emotions have calmed, we can take steps to improve what has occurred, not before.
We must be honest and look deeply into the source of the problems in the relationship.
Both people must refrain from pointing fingers and insisting the other was the sole cause of the problem.
Both people in the relationship nearly always have some share in the creation of the source of the disagreement or breakup.
Most surface problems are the symptom of other deeper weaknesses in the fabric of the relationship.
Give each other space and do not try to force your partner to say or do anything that he or she is not ready, on their own, to do.
Trying to force your partner to do something before they are ready is perhaps the quickest way to damage your relationship beyond any hope of recovery.
Sometimes simply giving the other person the time and space they need is all that it takes to begin to move your relationship in the direction necessary for reconciliation.
Pushing or forcing usually only causes more anger and fear.
Work on yourself, perhaps first and foremost, before you begin to work on your relationship with your lover.
Read as much as possible from the wide variety of quality self and relationship development books.
Take time to write in a journal and meditate on what you are reading.
Apply this learning to what has happened in your relationship through thinking actively about what has happened.
Take care of yourself physically to regain inner peace.
As you go through this process on your own, slowly return to communication with your partner, keeping active LISTENING in the forefront of your communication with your partner.
With time and the right information, you can take the right steps together to save your relationship.
