The Mating Rituals Of Men And Women
Our mating rituals are rather complex considering that some species get away with a simple argument between the males or the mastery of a special mating song. But we start ours with the act of flirtatious behavior.
Women have an easier time defining their flirtatious behavior. Guys wouldn't et very far with most women if they spent their time flinging their hair back and giggling like a child. However, men have specific and necessary mating ritual flirtation behavior that is just as informative as a woman's gentle touch on the arm.
Men generally flirt verbally. Since swinging our hips isn't going to bring us a woman, we have learned to rely on our basic prowess and our ability to compliment, tickle, and play with women. The more we define our ability to flirt, the better we become at displaying our interest and our intentions. Since we are one of the few species that have the social requirements concerning privacy and expectations (including the one where we all walk around clothed) flirting effectively can be difficult.
Compliments are, of course, a great method of flirting. When you are complimenting you are smiling a lot, building up an obvious interest in someone, and sending out a very clear message. Offering up a few very subtle but sincere sexual innuendos can also be considered flirting. While you don't want to ask her if she is ready to spread'em, you can make a few suggestive comments that aren't directly related to taking her to bed. Subtle sexual undertones can be effective flirtatious behavior. Obvious and direct commentary is usually not well received unless you are positive that she is right there with you.
It is not uncommon for men to flirt with a woman who isn't responsive to sexual interest. It seems that women are flirting and then all of sudden they turn cold when they realize that you are interested in them as anything more than just a friend. Women who are really relaxed around men might simply be enjoying the company and having a good time. Men tend to get their signals crossed regularly on this topic. Men have a harder time with subtlety. We just prefer that people come right out and say what they mean and what they want. Because we have to spend so much of our time guessing, we get confused and we often find ourselves frustrated with the situation. Every guy has had this experience more than once if he has done anything more than just look at a woman. Rely on your experience and just apologize if you get it wrong.
Don't take things too seriously. I believe that this is rule number one to successful flirting. Sometimes flirting just feels good. You can certainly tell when a woman is at the very least enjoying the attention. Even if she is otherwise committed or she is likely to notice that you are engaged in trying to seduce her, women sometimes will let you continue flirting just because they are loving the attention. Often they don't get enough of this sort of positive attention from their significant other and you are fulfilling a vital need for her. While it might be little consolation when you drive home alone again that night, there is something truly remarkable in being able to give a woman such a special and meaningful gift.
Flirting is a natural part of the mating ritual of humans. Just like the beasts of the wild, our mating ritual needs to be practiced regularly in order to get it down just right. Some of our instinctual behaviors are dead on while others are not. Practice enjoying the process and the gift of flirting and the end result won't matter quite as much.
Women have an easier time defining their flirtatious behavior. Guys wouldn't et very far with most women if they spent their time flinging their hair back and giggling like a child. However, men have specific and necessary mating ritual flirtation behavior that is just as informative as a woman's gentle touch on the arm.
Men generally flirt verbally. Since swinging our hips isn't going to bring us a woman, we have learned to rely on our basic prowess and our ability to compliment, tickle, and play with women. The more we define our ability to flirt, the better we become at displaying our interest and our intentions. Since we are one of the few species that have the social requirements concerning privacy and expectations (including the one where we all walk around clothed) flirting effectively can be difficult.
Compliments are, of course, a great method of flirting. When you are complimenting you are smiling a lot, building up an obvious interest in someone, and sending out a very clear message. Offering up a few very subtle but sincere sexual innuendos can also be considered flirting. While you don't want to ask her if she is ready to spread'em, you can make a few suggestive comments that aren't directly related to taking her to bed. Subtle sexual undertones can be effective flirtatious behavior. Obvious and direct commentary is usually not well received unless you are positive that she is right there with you.
It is not uncommon for men to flirt with a woman who isn't responsive to sexual interest. It seems that women are flirting and then all of sudden they turn cold when they realize that you are interested in them as anything more than just a friend. Women who are really relaxed around men might simply be enjoying the company and having a good time. Men tend to get their signals crossed regularly on this topic. Men have a harder time with subtlety. We just prefer that people come right out and say what they mean and what they want. Because we have to spend so much of our time guessing, we get confused and we often find ourselves frustrated with the situation. Every guy has had this experience more than once if he has done anything more than just look at a woman. Rely on your experience and just apologize if you get it wrong.
Don't take things too seriously. I believe that this is rule number one to successful flirting. Sometimes flirting just feels good. You can certainly tell when a woman is at the very least enjoying the attention. Even if she is otherwise committed or she is likely to notice that you are engaged in trying to seduce her, women sometimes will let you continue flirting just because they are loving the attention. Often they don't get enough of this sort of positive attention from their significant other and you are fulfilling a vital need for her. While it might be little consolation when you drive home alone again that night, there is something truly remarkable in being able to give a woman such a special and meaningful gift.
Flirting is a natural part of the mating ritual of humans. Just like the beasts of the wild, our mating ritual needs to be practiced regularly in order to get it down just right. Some of our instinctual behaviors are dead on while others are not. Practice enjoying the process and the gift of flirting and the end result won't matter quite as much.
