If You Want Your Ex Back, Don"t Settle For the "Let"s Be Friends" Angle - It Just Doesn"t
If you want your ex back after the break up, don't even think of just being friends.
This will be a total disaster to you, and won't help your situation at all.
You might be tempted by the idea because it would mean that you would still be in contact with your ex, even if only as a friend.
However, there are quite a few things to think about here.
For instance, just imagine that you HAVE decided to stay just friend with your ex, and you bump into your ex and his/her new partner.
Apart from it being an awkward situation, it will also cause you a lot of heartache.
There's someone else with your ex instead of you! Not only that, but, because you and your ex know each other really well, and are just friends, you could very well be the one that your ex calls up when he/she needs advice in the new relationship.
This is also going to cause untold damage to you - it will definitely add to your depression and no matter how much you want your ex back, it just won't happen.
Another negative side to just being friends with your ex is the fact that you are allowing yourself to be a convenience for your ex.
While he/she is out having a ball and enjoying life, you are sitting around waiting patiently, getting more miserable everyday.
The thing is, this relationship that your ex is in at the moment, probably won't last very long anyway.
Your ex got into this relationship much too soon after your break up, and didn't give him/herself enough time to get over your failed relationship first.
So, the new relationship is not real love, but simply a rebound relationship - a crutch to carry your ex through these bad times.
So, for your own good, steer clear of just being friends with your ex, and rather have no contact with him/her at all.
When the rebound relationship takes a dive, then your ex will be hankering to be with you again.
The answer then is, if you want your ex back, just stay away from your ex altogether - this will make your ex miss you and he/she will contact you sooner or later.
This will be a total disaster to you, and won't help your situation at all.
You might be tempted by the idea because it would mean that you would still be in contact with your ex, even if only as a friend.
However, there are quite a few things to think about here.
For instance, just imagine that you HAVE decided to stay just friend with your ex, and you bump into your ex and his/her new partner.
Apart from it being an awkward situation, it will also cause you a lot of heartache.
There's someone else with your ex instead of you! Not only that, but, because you and your ex know each other really well, and are just friends, you could very well be the one that your ex calls up when he/she needs advice in the new relationship.
This is also going to cause untold damage to you - it will definitely add to your depression and no matter how much you want your ex back, it just won't happen.
Another negative side to just being friends with your ex is the fact that you are allowing yourself to be a convenience for your ex.
While he/she is out having a ball and enjoying life, you are sitting around waiting patiently, getting more miserable everyday.
The thing is, this relationship that your ex is in at the moment, probably won't last very long anyway.
Your ex got into this relationship much too soon after your break up, and didn't give him/herself enough time to get over your failed relationship first.
So, the new relationship is not real love, but simply a rebound relationship - a crutch to carry your ex through these bad times.
So, for your own good, steer clear of just being friends with your ex, and rather have no contact with him/her at all.
When the rebound relationship takes a dive, then your ex will be hankering to be with you again.
The answer then is, if you want your ex back, just stay away from your ex altogether - this will make your ex miss you and he/she will contact you sooner or later.
