How to Tell Your Heterosexual Partner That You"re Bisexual - 3 Tips
Here are 3 tips for how to tell your heterosexual partner that you're bisexual.
1.
The Test.
First you want to establish a general reaction.
This can be done by a test.
You want to pose a question to your partner which is designed to reveal his feelings towards same sex couples as well as bisexual individuals.
Everyone is different, so how you come up with a good test which will be easy to execute is up to you.
It could be simply finding a celebrity who is bisexual and bringing them up in conversation, then saying, "did you know she is bisexual"? Then carry on the conversation from that point.
2.
The Experience.
Next is revealing an experience you had.
Based on your partners reaction to the test, you will want to reveal an experience you had with the other sex in a careful manner, a calm manner, or a carefree manner.
Just reveal one experience as if it was a one time deal.
This will ease your partner into accepting your bisexuality.
Let this sit with them for a few days.
As it settles in they will ease into the possibility that you may be bisexual.
If you just come out and say it and reveal a slew of sexual experiences or strong feelings you had, then this can come off as too much information, too soon.
In other words, it will be way too overwhelming for them to deal with all at once.
3.
The Reality.
After a few days or even a week, bring up your experience once again and state that "technically" you are bisexual.
Ease them into the reality that you've had other experiences as well.
Try to take note of how they react.
Do they seem to have a problem with it? Are they acting hesitant or distant? They need to know and hopefully you revealed it smoothly yet quickly without overwhelming them.
Here's a few added notes:
1.
The Test.
First you want to establish a general reaction.
This can be done by a test.
You want to pose a question to your partner which is designed to reveal his feelings towards same sex couples as well as bisexual individuals.
Everyone is different, so how you come up with a good test which will be easy to execute is up to you.
It could be simply finding a celebrity who is bisexual and bringing them up in conversation, then saying, "did you know she is bisexual"? Then carry on the conversation from that point.
2.
The Experience.
Next is revealing an experience you had.
Based on your partners reaction to the test, you will want to reveal an experience you had with the other sex in a careful manner, a calm manner, or a carefree manner.
Just reveal one experience as if it was a one time deal.
This will ease your partner into accepting your bisexuality.
Let this sit with them for a few days.
As it settles in they will ease into the possibility that you may be bisexual.
If you just come out and say it and reveal a slew of sexual experiences or strong feelings you had, then this can come off as too much information, too soon.
In other words, it will be way too overwhelming for them to deal with all at once.
3.
The Reality.
After a few days or even a week, bring up your experience once again and state that "technically" you are bisexual.
Ease them into the reality that you've had other experiences as well.
Try to take note of how they react.
Do they seem to have a problem with it? Are they acting hesitant or distant? They need to know and hopefully you revealed it smoothly yet quickly without overwhelming them.
Here's a few added notes:
- You don't have to have had an "experience" with the other sex.
It could just be a strong feeling or the simple realization that you know you are bisexual.
Instead of relaying an actual experience, simply relay what you know to be true. - Make sure that they are fine with your sexuality.
Some couples will go through these steps, but then they will never talk about it again.
It's like one person will want to pretend it didn't happen or will want to believe it was a phase, when in reality he or she simply will not accept who you are.
Communicate and make sure everything is cool between the two of you.
