How to Handle a Distant Man - Learn How You Can Change Him and Get More Closer to Him
Even though he says he loves you, you are beginning to feel unloved because of his cold and distant behavior! The reasons for this type of behavior could be many so unless and until you are sure of them it would be best not to judge your guy.
Here are some ways in which you can handle him and get him to open up with you.
Don't retaliate and show him you're upset If you react too strongly to his distant behavior it could make him go further into his shell, because he might hate the thought of a confrontation or an argument! Don't think that putting pressure on him to be more attentive and loving will make him want to open up.
Being considerate and loving, sensitive and understanding is what will make him do so.
Be a little distant yourself Very often a little bit of "tit for tat" makes him sit up and realize what he is doing is wrong.
When he gets a taste of his own medicine, he will know what it feels like when the person he loves is being distant with him.
Leaving him alone to work out what is bothering him is a good idea! Don't judge yourself or him Remember that you or your ways may not be the reason for him behaving in this distant manner.
This means that you should not hold yourself responsible for his coldness not feel guilty! Give him time and try to understand that he needs to get out of this situation the best way he can.
Be sensitive to his feelings and encourage him If you are going to concentrate only on what your own feelings and emotions are and get angry with him, he will refuse to come out of his shell.
Be sensitive and don't rub him up the wrong way! The more understanding and patient you are, the more likely is he to stop being distant with you.
Find out what excites and makes him happy It is a good idea to ignore his silences and moods and try to get him interested and excited instead.
Talk about his favorite sport or get involved in his activities so that he starts to enjoy himself more.
The moment you share common ground and interests he will find it harder to be cold and distant with you.
Try to get rid of the differences Talking and communicating with him will help.
If you can manage to have a discussion as to what is really troubling or worrying him, it will be easier to find a solution to the problem.
Keeping quiet, sulking and nurturing feelings of self pity and hurt will only push him away from you further! Get to the root cause for his coldness The most important factor is to get to the root cause! Once you recognize it you should try to do your best to get rid of it no matter how painful it is.
If you need to change certain aspects of your behavior or attitudes that are making him unhappy - do it! He will only love you more and open up willingly when he sees how far you are willing to go for him.
Here are some ways in which you can handle him and get him to open up with you.
Don't retaliate and show him you're upset If you react too strongly to his distant behavior it could make him go further into his shell, because he might hate the thought of a confrontation or an argument! Don't think that putting pressure on him to be more attentive and loving will make him want to open up.
Being considerate and loving, sensitive and understanding is what will make him do so.
Be a little distant yourself Very often a little bit of "tit for tat" makes him sit up and realize what he is doing is wrong.
When he gets a taste of his own medicine, he will know what it feels like when the person he loves is being distant with him.
Leaving him alone to work out what is bothering him is a good idea! Don't judge yourself or him Remember that you or your ways may not be the reason for him behaving in this distant manner.
This means that you should not hold yourself responsible for his coldness not feel guilty! Give him time and try to understand that he needs to get out of this situation the best way he can.
Be sensitive to his feelings and encourage him If you are going to concentrate only on what your own feelings and emotions are and get angry with him, he will refuse to come out of his shell.
Be sensitive and don't rub him up the wrong way! The more understanding and patient you are, the more likely is he to stop being distant with you.
Find out what excites and makes him happy It is a good idea to ignore his silences and moods and try to get him interested and excited instead.
Talk about his favorite sport or get involved in his activities so that he starts to enjoy himself more.
The moment you share common ground and interests he will find it harder to be cold and distant with you.
Try to get rid of the differences Talking and communicating with him will help.
If you can manage to have a discussion as to what is really troubling or worrying him, it will be easier to find a solution to the problem.
Keeping quiet, sulking and nurturing feelings of self pity and hurt will only push him away from you further! Get to the root cause for his coldness The most important factor is to get to the root cause! Once you recognize it you should try to do your best to get rid of it no matter how painful it is.
If you need to change certain aspects of your behavior or attitudes that are making him unhappy - do it! He will only love you more and open up willingly when he sees how far you are willing to go for him.
