How To Improve Self Esteem In Seven Steps
Self-esteem answers the question, €How do I feel about who I am?€. We develop our self esteem as we live life every day; we don't inherit it or have it since we were conceived. We all want to live a happy and successful life; but this is easier said than done, especially for people who are afflicted with low self esteem. Good thing there are things we can do to improve our self esteem. Nevertheless, your esteem cannot be changed in just a snap, it would require time and a great deal of effort--determination. To guide you on how to improve self esteem, below are seven simple steps:
Step One
Have a realistic appraisal of life's problems. You need to have a realistic assessment of your problems so you can find the correct solutions for them. For instance, common sources of stress like traffic and long lines in the cafe are not really problems unless you perceive them as such. Troubles, problems and obstacles will always be a part of life. So you have to learn to accept the fact that life is and will never be perfect. You will be able to react to day-to-day life events more effectively if your evaluation of things are realistic.
Step Two
Do away with the comparison game. In this world, there will always be someone greater than you, in the same way that you are also greater than someone. If you keep on comparing, you will find yourself feeling inadequate very often.
Step Three
Determine the things that make you feel bad about yourself. Identify which areas in your life are actually dragging your self esteem down and avoid them or better yet, find ways to improve them. If the way you look is causing you to feel bad about yourself, then work on improving it--work out, eat well and dress sharply.
Step Four
Stop criticizing yourself. You will never be able to develop a healthy level of self esteem if you keep on saying negative things about yourself. Instead, repeat positive statements and affirmations. Positive statements and affirmations have the capability to make you feel good and motivate you to become even better. Whether speaking about your appearance, your profession, your relationships, your financial situation, or any other aspects of your life, avoid self-deprecating comments. You should be your biggest fan!
Step Five
Be surrounded by people who support you and make you feel positive at all times. If you form friendships with people who are cynical and controlling, you are likely going to feel bad about yourself often. On the other hand, being in the company of people who listens to you, motivates and accepts you, you are sure to be on your way to a healthier level of self esteem.
Step Six
Act! If you just keep worrying about your self esteem issues, you will never get anywhere near a healthy level of self esteem. When you act - regardless of the ensuing result, you Feel Better About yourself. If you let your fears keep you from achieving what you want, you will end up feeling frustrated with yourself.
Step Seven
Learn to forgive yourself when you do not accomplish all that you set out to. I am not saying that you are gonna fall short, but if you are, learn to openly accept that failure is a part of being human. Remember that as you go along, you will realize that challenges may turn into something positive in the long run.
Step One
Have a realistic appraisal of life's problems. You need to have a realistic assessment of your problems so you can find the correct solutions for them. For instance, common sources of stress like traffic and long lines in the cafe are not really problems unless you perceive them as such. Troubles, problems and obstacles will always be a part of life. So you have to learn to accept the fact that life is and will never be perfect. You will be able to react to day-to-day life events more effectively if your evaluation of things are realistic.
Step Two
Do away with the comparison game. In this world, there will always be someone greater than you, in the same way that you are also greater than someone. If you keep on comparing, you will find yourself feeling inadequate very often.
Step Three
Determine the things that make you feel bad about yourself. Identify which areas in your life are actually dragging your self esteem down and avoid them or better yet, find ways to improve them. If the way you look is causing you to feel bad about yourself, then work on improving it--work out, eat well and dress sharply.
Step Four
Stop criticizing yourself. You will never be able to develop a healthy level of self esteem if you keep on saying negative things about yourself. Instead, repeat positive statements and affirmations. Positive statements and affirmations have the capability to make you feel good and motivate you to become even better. Whether speaking about your appearance, your profession, your relationships, your financial situation, or any other aspects of your life, avoid self-deprecating comments. You should be your biggest fan!
Step Five
Be surrounded by people who support you and make you feel positive at all times. If you form friendships with people who are cynical and controlling, you are likely going to feel bad about yourself often. On the other hand, being in the company of people who listens to you, motivates and accepts you, you are sure to be on your way to a healthier level of self esteem.
Step Six
Act! If you just keep worrying about your self esteem issues, you will never get anywhere near a healthy level of self esteem. When you act - regardless of the ensuing result, you Feel Better About yourself. If you let your fears keep you from achieving what you want, you will end up feeling frustrated with yourself.
Step Seven
Learn to forgive yourself when you do not accomplish all that you set out to. I am not saying that you are gonna fall short, but if you are, learn to openly accept that failure is a part of being human. Remember that as you go along, you will realize that challenges may turn into something positive in the long run.
