Improving Dating by Reducing Flaking Part 2
In Part 2 of this article I will share with you many tips that can help you reduce flaking and improve your dating life.
Yet before I get to them, first let me reinforce how important your attitude and frame are.
You can refer to part 1 for more details, however, in the mean time I will explain what I mean by attitude and frame.
With a powerful, flexible and playful attitude and frame you can handle to stresses of every day life including the potential chaos of dating.
You will take things seriously and figure out how to improve yourself and your success, without taking things too personally.
This allows you to learn from your experiences and the experiences of others with less of the bitterness and resentment that comes with taking things too seriously and personally.
It is as if your frame and attitude allow you to learn the lessons, while the discomfort tends to dissipate quickly leaving you better off for the lessons.
You can almost appreciate experiences that are less than wonderful because often times those experiences teach us more.
Also, you will be able to enjoy your dating life more and get the most out of life in general.
For example, I actually had this article all written and then my computer had some kind of problem and the whole thing got lost in cyberspace ( guess my computer flaked ) so after a minute of "Damn it!" I took a deep breath and looked for the lesson in this.
Without this attitude and frame of powerful flexibility and playfulness I may have just raged on and on without ever submitting part 2 of this series.
Instead I felt the expected and normal frustration that comes with being alive and I did my best to make the best of the situation.
In fact I think this version of the article is much, much better so perhaps there was a reason for the computer issue.
Either way, I chose to be grateful for the opportunity to submit a better article that can help you even more.
This is probably the MOST important tip and I probably did not emphasize this point enough in the original part 2 of this article.
You can look forward to part 3 where I will round things out and add some extra tips and perspective.
Anyway, here are 6 powerful tips to help you reduce flaking and since we can only really change ourselves, these tips are more about what we can do.
If someone flakes it is a habit they could change if they wanted or needed to, yet we can really only reduce our encounters with these kinds of people by knowing what signs to look out for.
*1.
BE your BEST SELF and make sure the date, encounter is exciting, fun and that you BOTH are enjoying yourselves.
*2.
Qualify them and yourself and do your best to be compatible so that things flow smoother.
Harsh judgements are not healthy or helpful, however having standards is healthy and helpful.
Learn this subtle difference.
*3.
They should be asking you questions and be showing interest and there should be a good balance between you.
Sharing and taking turns sharing in the process of getting to know one another better.
This interaction will help to make things fun and enjoyable and something that you BOTH want to do again and again in the future...
*4.
You can sprinkle the conversation with seeds of future meetings by finding out what they like and sharing what you enjoy doing.
So plant those seeds of future meetings of the both of you enjoying yourselves together.
*5.
Pitch for future plans at a moment when they are in a good mood and better yet when you just made them laugh.
Anchor this good feeling with a touch, a look, a laugh, etc.
and then talk about meeting and doing something that you both talked about.
( if you need more information about Anchoring you can call me or write to me ) *6 Always be noticing and calibrate their responses and your own.
Body Language and Energies and Actions over ride their words.
Remember this! Tune in to part 3 of this series, coming soon! Michael Twomey
Yet before I get to them, first let me reinforce how important your attitude and frame are.
You can refer to part 1 for more details, however, in the mean time I will explain what I mean by attitude and frame.
With a powerful, flexible and playful attitude and frame you can handle to stresses of every day life including the potential chaos of dating.
You will take things seriously and figure out how to improve yourself and your success, without taking things too personally.
This allows you to learn from your experiences and the experiences of others with less of the bitterness and resentment that comes with taking things too seriously and personally.
It is as if your frame and attitude allow you to learn the lessons, while the discomfort tends to dissipate quickly leaving you better off for the lessons.
You can almost appreciate experiences that are less than wonderful because often times those experiences teach us more.
Also, you will be able to enjoy your dating life more and get the most out of life in general.
For example, I actually had this article all written and then my computer had some kind of problem and the whole thing got lost in cyberspace ( guess my computer flaked ) so after a minute of "Damn it!" I took a deep breath and looked for the lesson in this.
Without this attitude and frame of powerful flexibility and playfulness I may have just raged on and on without ever submitting part 2 of this series.
Instead I felt the expected and normal frustration that comes with being alive and I did my best to make the best of the situation.
In fact I think this version of the article is much, much better so perhaps there was a reason for the computer issue.
Either way, I chose to be grateful for the opportunity to submit a better article that can help you even more.
This is probably the MOST important tip and I probably did not emphasize this point enough in the original part 2 of this article.
You can look forward to part 3 where I will round things out and add some extra tips and perspective.
Anyway, here are 6 powerful tips to help you reduce flaking and since we can only really change ourselves, these tips are more about what we can do.
If someone flakes it is a habit they could change if they wanted or needed to, yet we can really only reduce our encounters with these kinds of people by knowing what signs to look out for.
*1.
BE your BEST SELF and make sure the date, encounter is exciting, fun and that you BOTH are enjoying yourselves.
*2.
Qualify them and yourself and do your best to be compatible so that things flow smoother.
Harsh judgements are not healthy or helpful, however having standards is healthy and helpful.
Learn this subtle difference.
*3.
They should be asking you questions and be showing interest and there should be a good balance between you.
Sharing and taking turns sharing in the process of getting to know one another better.
This interaction will help to make things fun and enjoyable and something that you BOTH want to do again and again in the future...
*4.
You can sprinkle the conversation with seeds of future meetings by finding out what they like and sharing what you enjoy doing.
So plant those seeds of future meetings of the both of you enjoying yourselves together.
*5.
Pitch for future plans at a moment when they are in a good mood and better yet when you just made them laugh.
Anchor this good feeling with a touch, a look, a laugh, etc.
and then talk about meeting and doing something that you both talked about.
( if you need more information about Anchoring you can call me or write to me ) *6 Always be noticing and calibrate their responses and your own.
Body Language and Energies and Actions over ride their words.
Remember this! Tune in to part 3 of this series, coming soon! Michael Twomey
