Do You Wonder Why You and Your Spouse Always Argue?
Whenever I think about how to stop marital arguments, my old office mate comes to mind.
She was usually a happy and free spirited person but when it came to her marriage life, she became sad and unreasonable.
Every time I saw her she would always talk about: How her husband would make her day miserable.
How hard it is for her to make her day as lively as ever.
The fact that arguments at home don't stop make her a less happy soul.
She explained to me some reasons why arguments became a household vocabulary.
Her husband went out of the house early and came home late night.
He prioritizes meeting his friends even on a Sunday, their family day.
He forget about special occasions like anniversaries, birthdays and other events in their marriage life.
He didn't come on time.
He eats like a horse.
(Okay, I am exaggerating here).
What I learned from her is that one of the biggest reasons of arguments is that husbands tend to do things that the wife feels are not helpful for the family.
This causes the wife to think, "How can a married man do these activities of a bachelor? If you are married you should act like a married man too.
Married man stays at home on a family day, remembers special occasions if not all and celebrates the success of the family together.
You are not there to meet up with your friends and celebrate with them.
" Eventually that can cause family feud between you and your wife.
When a partner cannot keep up with his promises and responsibilities as a married person that is when arguments can start.
Your partner will definitely make a big fuss out of this.
She can let go on the first few tries but don't exaggerate it, it is not funny anymore.
Be a man enough for your wife and family.
They need you to be with them when it is family time.
You have to be a visible parent to them.
Let them feel that you love and appreciate them, that you exist too.
It is okay to skip and do things like these once in a while.
But doing it very often is a big "No-No".
Being married is not all about you and I.
It is about us and ours.
Arguments can come along anytime, maybe because of some hormonal imbalance for women or stress that's coming from work and the world around us.
Continuous arguments are never healthy.
If this is your case, it is just but wise that you and your partner will sit down and discuss this.
You cannot just let this as a common scenario at home.
You will never know where it leads you in the future if you will let it happen.
A good vacation or surprise dinner won't hurt at all.
Create some spice in your life sometimes that can start a good atmosphere in a relationship too.
It is almost 5pm, why don't you go home and prepare a luscious dinner at home.
Your wife will be very happy and surprised to see you preparing dinner for the family.
This is one way to start a good air in your home.
Some great things can be even discussed after dinner.
She was usually a happy and free spirited person but when it came to her marriage life, she became sad and unreasonable.
Every time I saw her she would always talk about: How her husband would make her day miserable.
How hard it is for her to make her day as lively as ever.
The fact that arguments at home don't stop make her a less happy soul.
She explained to me some reasons why arguments became a household vocabulary.
Her husband went out of the house early and came home late night.
He prioritizes meeting his friends even on a Sunday, their family day.
He forget about special occasions like anniversaries, birthdays and other events in their marriage life.
He didn't come on time.
He eats like a horse.
(Okay, I am exaggerating here).
What I learned from her is that one of the biggest reasons of arguments is that husbands tend to do things that the wife feels are not helpful for the family.
This causes the wife to think, "How can a married man do these activities of a bachelor? If you are married you should act like a married man too.
Married man stays at home on a family day, remembers special occasions if not all and celebrates the success of the family together.
You are not there to meet up with your friends and celebrate with them.
" Eventually that can cause family feud between you and your wife.
When a partner cannot keep up with his promises and responsibilities as a married person that is when arguments can start.
Your partner will definitely make a big fuss out of this.
She can let go on the first few tries but don't exaggerate it, it is not funny anymore.
Be a man enough for your wife and family.
They need you to be with them when it is family time.
You have to be a visible parent to them.
Let them feel that you love and appreciate them, that you exist too.
It is okay to skip and do things like these once in a while.
But doing it very often is a big "No-No".
Being married is not all about you and I.
It is about us and ours.
Arguments can come along anytime, maybe because of some hormonal imbalance for women or stress that's coming from work and the world around us.
Continuous arguments are never healthy.
If this is your case, it is just but wise that you and your partner will sit down and discuss this.
You cannot just let this as a common scenario at home.
You will never know where it leads you in the future if you will let it happen.
A good vacation or surprise dinner won't hurt at all.
Create some spice in your life sometimes that can start a good atmosphere in a relationship too.
It is almost 5pm, why don't you go home and prepare a luscious dinner at home.
Your wife will be very happy and surprised to see you preparing dinner for the family.
This is one way to start a good air in your home.
Some great things can be even discussed after dinner.
