Exceptional Husband Guide - What To Do About Your Woman"s Problem Behaviors
I've been going through the complaints guys have about their wives.
And I thought I would give you a quick guide to understanding where those behaviors come from and just what you can do about it.
So, your woman is cranky a lot of the time.
Or depressed.
Or she doesn't do much around the house.
Or she doesn't appreciate the stuff you do.
Or she gives you crap about the stuff you didn't do in a way that is not respectful or nice.
She's not warm and fuzzy.
She's unavailable for sex.
She is always too tired to do things you want to do.
She shoots your ideas down before you even get a chance to explain or try them.
She spends too much time on Facebook or texting her friends.
She's back in touch with an ex-boyfriend, who she texts A LOT, but she insists they are "just friends.
" OK, I think that's the basic list.
First thing.
None of the above is because you are not man enough for her, or because she thinks you are not the guy for her.
Or whatever else.
If you are experiencing any of that stuff, the situation you are in is actually the most common type of relationship there is.
You are not alone.
And the reason is because of a whole bunch of lies and fantasies about relationships that come to us from popular songs and fairy tales and movies.
Our society and even our fathers and mothers and women themselves don't have the first clue about how to have a happy fulfilling relationship.
And that right there is the main reason your woman is mad and flaking on you.
Because she feels cheated.
She was lead to believe that her relationship would be one way, but it turned out different.
Way different.
What you can do about it.
Here are 5 things you can do today to start turning this situation around.
1.
Don't try to make her happy.
Instead do three things.
a) decide on a worthwhile family goal.
For example, a bigger car by next winter.
b) delegate to her some of the work necessary to make it happen.
Example, reduce spending by $100 a week.
c) notice her efforts.
Keep her morale up by reminding her of the goal.
Test drives.
Take her on fun inexpensive activities.
2.
Get to work on your secret identity project.
Pick something meaningful to you.
Fundraising.
Photography.
Animal rescue.
Anything.
3.
Don't ask permission.
In fact, don't tell her anything about it.
If she asks be honest, but downplay.
"It's nothing.
Just something I enjoy.
" 4.
Accept her problem behaviors by ignoring them.
Part of what drives these behaviors is drama.
Stop the drama and you'll get her attention.
5.
Ask for what you want.
And accept whatever the answer is.
Address her moodiness as it happens, by calmly pointing it out: "You are so angry.
What's wrong?" Try those and you'll be amazed at how much attention you'll get.
And I thought I would give you a quick guide to understanding where those behaviors come from and just what you can do about it.
So, your woman is cranky a lot of the time.
Or depressed.
Or she doesn't do much around the house.
Or she doesn't appreciate the stuff you do.
Or she gives you crap about the stuff you didn't do in a way that is not respectful or nice.
She's not warm and fuzzy.
She's unavailable for sex.
She is always too tired to do things you want to do.
She shoots your ideas down before you even get a chance to explain or try them.
She spends too much time on Facebook or texting her friends.
She's back in touch with an ex-boyfriend, who she texts A LOT, but she insists they are "just friends.
" OK, I think that's the basic list.
First thing.
None of the above is because you are not man enough for her, or because she thinks you are not the guy for her.
Or whatever else.
If you are experiencing any of that stuff, the situation you are in is actually the most common type of relationship there is.
You are not alone.
And the reason is because of a whole bunch of lies and fantasies about relationships that come to us from popular songs and fairy tales and movies.
Our society and even our fathers and mothers and women themselves don't have the first clue about how to have a happy fulfilling relationship.
And that right there is the main reason your woman is mad and flaking on you.
Because she feels cheated.
She was lead to believe that her relationship would be one way, but it turned out different.
Way different.
What you can do about it.
Here are 5 things you can do today to start turning this situation around.
1.
Don't try to make her happy.
Instead do three things.
a) decide on a worthwhile family goal.
For example, a bigger car by next winter.
b) delegate to her some of the work necessary to make it happen.
Example, reduce spending by $100 a week.
c) notice her efforts.
Keep her morale up by reminding her of the goal.
Test drives.
Take her on fun inexpensive activities.
2.
Get to work on your secret identity project.
Pick something meaningful to you.
Fundraising.
Photography.
Animal rescue.
Anything.
3.
Don't ask permission.
In fact, don't tell her anything about it.
If she asks be honest, but downplay.
"It's nothing.
Just something I enjoy.
" 4.
Accept her problem behaviors by ignoring them.
Part of what drives these behaviors is drama.
Stop the drama and you'll get her attention.
5.
Ask for what you want.
And accept whatever the answer is.
Address her moodiness as it happens, by calmly pointing it out: "You are so angry.
What's wrong?" Try those and you'll be amazed at how much attention you'll get.
