Signs That Your Boyfriend is No Longer Interested
Valentine's Day comes and goes without so much as a word from your longtime boyfriend.
And the note he left you on his way to work only asks you to pick up more toilet paper from the store.
Or worse, he's at the bar with his buddies on your birthday when he should be with you at a candlelit restaurant.
Are these lapses in courtesy a sign of a couple stuck in a rut or is the writing on the wall for your relationship? Living in denial can last only so long before you start to wonder whether you and your boyfriend should call it quits.
Here are some red flags that can reveal whether your boyfriend is no longer interested in your relationship: Among the most common signs that your boyfriend has checked out of the relationship is when he starts spending less time together with you and starts making excuses about it.
Maybe his friend had tickets to a football game -- every Sunday -- or perhaps he's picked up extra shifts at work, even when he doesn't need the money.
Take this into context with your boyfriend's personality, though.
He may just be ambitious.
If he's spending less time together with you and even less intimate times, he may be looking for love somewhere else.
Men aren't tremendously complicated when it comes to sex.
His feelings for you may be waning if he would rather rip open a bag of chips than rip off your blouse.
A telltale sign that something is seriously wrong with the relationship is when your boyfriend stops making any kind of effort to make you happy.
Does he compromise during arguments or has he held the door open for you lately? If he seemingly lost every ounce of romance he had at the beginning of the relationship, you may have to really think about whether he has lost interest.
Part of that effort should go towards spending alone time together and listening to what you have to say.
Maybe he's avoiding you and the inevitable -- the break-up -- by spending all his time at work or volunteering for extra shifts.
If he doesn't need the money, it may signal a big problem in the relationship.
And if he has stopped doing those sweet things that endeared you to him, like phoning you once a day, then he might not be that into you anymore.
A guy will make that call if he's committed to the relationship.
Others will try to back out of the relationship by slowly stopping these routine behaviors.
There's really nothing left to ponder if your boyfriend starts to go out with his friends a lot.
He is behaving like a single, unattached man.
It's even worse for your relationship if he starts to stay out really late.
Even if he has a lot of excuses, listen to your instincts.
When his excuses don't add up, there's often times a reason.
Learning that your partner no longer loves you can be a heart-wrenching experience, especially if you're more into him than he is into you.
But perhaps it's better to know the truth than to live in denial.
You have instincts.
Use them.
If something doesn't feel right, it's probably because it's not.
And the note he left you on his way to work only asks you to pick up more toilet paper from the store.
Or worse, he's at the bar with his buddies on your birthday when he should be with you at a candlelit restaurant.
Are these lapses in courtesy a sign of a couple stuck in a rut or is the writing on the wall for your relationship? Living in denial can last only so long before you start to wonder whether you and your boyfriend should call it quits.
Here are some red flags that can reveal whether your boyfriend is no longer interested in your relationship: Among the most common signs that your boyfriend has checked out of the relationship is when he starts spending less time together with you and starts making excuses about it.
Maybe his friend had tickets to a football game -- every Sunday -- or perhaps he's picked up extra shifts at work, even when he doesn't need the money.
Take this into context with your boyfriend's personality, though.
He may just be ambitious.
If he's spending less time together with you and even less intimate times, he may be looking for love somewhere else.
Men aren't tremendously complicated when it comes to sex.
His feelings for you may be waning if he would rather rip open a bag of chips than rip off your blouse.
A telltale sign that something is seriously wrong with the relationship is when your boyfriend stops making any kind of effort to make you happy.
Does he compromise during arguments or has he held the door open for you lately? If he seemingly lost every ounce of romance he had at the beginning of the relationship, you may have to really think about whether he has lost interest.
Part of that effort should go towards spending alone time together and listening to what you have to say.
Maybe he's avoiding you and the inevitable -- the break-up -- by spending all his time at work or volunteering for extra shifts.
If he doesn't need the money, it may signal a big problem in the relationship.
And if he has stopped doing those sweet things that endeared you to him, like phoning you once a day, then he might not be that into you anymore.
A guy will make that call if he's committed to the relationship.
Others will try to back out of the relationship by slowly stopping these routine behaviors.
There's really nothing left to ponder if your boyfriend starts to go out with his friends a lot.
He is behaving like a single, unattached man.
It's even worse for your relationship if he starts to stay out really late.
Even if he has a lot of excuses, listen to your instincts.
When his excuses don't add up, there's often times a reason.
Learning that your partner no longer loves you can be a heart-wrenching experience, especially if you're more into him than he is into you.
But perhaps it's better to know the truth than to live in denial.
You have instincts.
Use them.
If something doesn't feel right, it's probably because it's not.
