How to Renew a Strained Relationship
Where are the smiles? Where is the laughter? What happened to our "made in paradise" relationship? These are questions you might be asking yourself if you want to renew a strained relationship.
It's not too late to implement some measures to assist in this effort.
One thing you should do is to look at the "positives" in your relationship.
Take some time and reflect on the qualities that really made your relationship work.
Did you enjoy the same types of movies or entertainment? You may have the same ideas about family and children.
Do you share similar spiritual and moral beliefs? More than likely you found each other physically attractive.
The idea here is to focus on those foundational qualities that drew you together in the first place.
The bottom line is, what made you fall in love? You will need to get back to that foundation in order to reunite.
It goes without saying that no relationship is perfect.
Obviously your relationship built up enough negative things that it caused a split.
Many times a breakup is caused by one large "deal breaker" issue.
On the other hand, a relationship can end as a result of many small problems that build up over time.
Just as you reflected on the positive aspects of your initial relationship, you need to evaluate the "negative" aspects as well.
Keep in mind, however, that anger and negative feelings are in play right now.
Push those feelings aside for a few moments and evaluate the problem.
You may not have had that good of a sex life.
Your partner may have been involved in infidelity.
Maybe they were ready to settle down and you were not.
There are a number of things to consider when reflecting on the negative aspects of your relationship.
Another critical thing you need to analyze is your reason for wanting to get back in the same relationship.
You may have initial feelings of regret, but are your reasons concrete enough to return to the same person? Don't tell yourself that you cannot live without them or that you will never be happy alone.
This simply is not true.
You can absolutely be happy again with or without this person.
If you really want to renew a strained relationship then take the time to consider the steps above before jumping in with both feet.
Take a deep breath, get yourself a beverage of choice and put on your thinking cap.
It's not too late to implement some measures to assist in this effort.
One thing you should do is to look at the "positives" in your relationship.
Take some time and reflect on the qualities that really made your relationship work.
Did you enjoy the same types of movies or entertainment? You may have the same ideas about family and children.
Do you share similar spiritual and moral beliefs? More than likely you found each other physically attractive.
The idea here is to focus on those foundational qualities that drew you together in the first place.
The bottom line is, what made you fall in love? You will need to get back to that foundation in order to reunite.
It goes without saying that no relationship is perfect.
Obviously your relationship built up enough negative things that it caused a split.
Many times a breakup is caused by one large "deal breaker" issue.
On the other hand, a relationship can end as a result of many small problems that build up over time.
Just as you reflected on the positive aspects of your initial relationship, you need to evaluate the "negative" aspects as well.
Keep in mind, however, that anger and negative feelings are in play right now.
Push those feelings aside for a few moments and evaluate the problem.
You may not have had that good of a sex life.
Your partner may have been involved in infidelity.
Maybe they were ready to settle down and you were not.
There are a number of things to consider when reflecting on the negative aspects of your relationship.
Another critical thing you need to analyze is your reason for wanting to get back in the same relationship.
You may have initial feelings of regret, but are your reasons concrete enough to return to the same person? Don't tell yourself that you cannot live without them or that you will never be happy alone.
This simply is not true.
You can absolutely be happy again with or without this person.
If you really want to renew a strained relationship then take the time to consider the steps above before jumping in with both feet.
Take a deep breath, get yourself a beverage of choice and put on your thinking cap.
