Why your friends don’t want you to stop smoking weed
We love our friends. We've been through so much with them. We'd do anything for them. In an uncertain world you can always count on your friends to offer support. Always? Well, until you want to stop smoking weed that is. Then you'll find out who your friends really are!
Sometimes a friend will feel let down if you stop a habit that they want to stop
It turns out that some of your friends don't actually want what you want. Obviously, true friends will support you no matter what.
But more often than not weed-smokers will try to encourage you to keep smoking and try to dissuade you from giving up smoking weed. Why?
They do this because they are uneasy about their smoking habit. If they are bothered about someone else giving up smoking then it is very likely that they are bothered about it themselves.
They will even try to sabotage your attempts and tempt you to start smoking weed again. Why? The more people they see smoking weed the better they feel about their problem. And don't forget weed can make you paranoid, this only makes things worse!
Why did you start smoking weed in the first place?
Many people say they started smoking and drinking to fit in. There is a bond that exists when you share a vice with someone. You have an instant partnership with that person as you are rejecting the norms of society and are rebelling together!
Now, when you quit that person may feel that bond has been broken and feel let down because of it.
There is really nothing you can do about this but try not to be too judgmental.
You have decided not to smoke but you are happy to be in the company of smokers and non-smokers alike. If someone has a problem with your bad habits or your good habits then it's just that €" their problem! There will always be people who don't like what you do.
Getting on with people
There's a big paradox here. People take drugs and have a great time getting to know other people who indulge in the same habit (like joining a social club, for example) but then weed takes away your ability to interact with people, causing you to question everything you do because of the herb's ability to engender feelings of paranoia.
You end up with less friends and you feel less engaged with society or with the communities you live within.
This problem can be seen with greater clarity when you've stopped smoking weed for a while.
How to get on with people when you want to stop smoking weed
Explain to your partner that you think you'd be better off without weed and that you may act a bit weird for a couple of weeks but things will be improving soon.
Plan your first two weeks without weed and make sure you have plenty of things to do. A lot of your time is spent smoking weed or hanging out with people who also smoke weed and you're going to have to find things to do to make sure you don't get bored.
Get a new hobby. We've spoken about this before, try to increase your exercise regime, little by little every week. This will give you something else to do that will improve your body and mind.
Get out and meet new people. Interested in Shih Tzus and Lap Dogs and live in South Florida? Want to dance Salsa in Toronto? Like to meet up with under 30s in London? Try MeetUps.com to meet with people in your local area.
Meditate. Try my way to meditate and hypnotize yourself away from weed.
You must try to find hobbies that don't involve sitting down and watching TV €" because the more you do of that, the more bored and tempted you will be to start smoking weed again.
Sadly, you may have to cut down the time you spend with certain smoker-friends when they are smoking. This does not mean the relationship is over but it does mean that meaningful discussion is difficult when one person is stoned and the other isn't.
Have you had any experience of this? I would love to hear from you if so.
Sometimes a friend will feel let down if you stop a habit that they want to stop
It turns out that some of your friends don't actually want what you want. Obviously, true friends will support you no matter what.
But more often than not weed-smokers will try to encourage you to keep smoking and try to dissuade you from giving up smoking weed. Why?
They do this because they are uneasy about their smoking habit. If they are bothered about someone else giving up smoking then it is very likely that they are bothered about it themselves.
They will even try to sabotage your attempts and tempt you to start smoking weed again. Why? The more people they see smoking weed the better they feel about their problem. And don't forget weed can make you paranoid, this only makes things worse!
Why did you start smoking weed in the first place?
Many people say they started smoking and drinking to fit in. There is a bond that exists when you share a vice with someone. You have an instant partnership with that person as you are rejecting the norms of society and are rebelling together!
Now, when you quit that person may feel that bond has been broken and feel let down because of it.
There is really nothing you can do about this but try not to be too judgmental.
You have decided not to smoke but you are happy to be in the company of smokers and non-smokers alike. If someone has a problem with your bad habits or your good habits then it's just that €" their problem! There will always be people who don't like what you do.
Getting on with people
There's a big paradox here. People take drugs and have a great time getting to know other people who indulge in the same habit (like joining a social club, for example) but then weed takes away your ability to interact with people, causing you to question everything you do because of the herb's ability to engender feelings of paranoia.
You end up with less friends and you feel less engaged with society or with the communities you live within.
This problem can be seen with greater clarity when you've stopped smoking weed for a while.
How to get on with people when you want to stop smoking weed
Explain to your partner that you think you'd be better off without weed and that you may act a bit weird for a couple of weeks but things will be improving soon.
Plan your first two weeks without weed and make sure you have plenty of things to do. A lot of your time is spent smoking weed or hanging out with people who also smoke weed and you're going to have to find things to do to make sure you don't get bored.
Get a new hobby. We've spoken about this before, try to increase your exercise regime, little by little every week. This will give you something else to do that will improve your body and mind.
Get out and meet new people. Interested in Shih Tzus and Lap Dogs and live in South Florida? Want to dance Salsa in Toronto? Like to meet up with under 30s in London? Try MeetUps.com to meet with people in your local area.
Meditate. Try my way to meditate and hypnotize yourself away from weed.
You must try to find hobbies that don't involve sitting down and watching TV €" because the more you do of that, the more bored and tempted you will be to start smoking weed again.
Sadly, you may have to cut down the time you spend with certain smoker-friends when they are smoking. This does not mean the relationship is over but it does mean that meaningful discussion is difficult when one person is stoned and the other isn't.
Have you had any experience of this? I would love to hear from you if so.
