There are secrets to getting your ex boyfriend back and I name them secrets because they are the completely reverse of what most ladies have a tendency to do when they are faced with a break up. If you are texting your ex, sending voice mails, making attempts to phone him at his job to trap him into speaking to you, or bugging his buddies or family members, then you need to stop and you need to stop right now. These steps are guaranteed to drive your man farther out of your existence. Right here is what you need to do...Secrets to getting your ex boyfriend back in your arms again:1. Let's begin with a reality check. Are your girlfriends telling you to accept that the two of you are no longer together? Then, I hate to tell you this but they are right. If there is any part of you that is secretly hoping that you didn't actually break up or that "he will be back once he comes to his senses", then you are not accepting the reality of what has happened.This is such a common issue and it is the worst thing you can do if your goal is to fix your break up. Look at it this way, if you do not fully grasp that the relationship is broken, then how can you fix it?2. When you have accepted that it is true and that you did break up, then you want to demonstrate to your ex that you are doing okay. I know this may sound difficult right now, but if you want back together, you need to try. What this means is that you must show that you can function normally through out your day. You want to go to work, take care of your responsibilities, even go out for a nice quiet night with your girlfriends.Believe me, your ex will notice that you are okay and two things will happen, first he will feel less pressured by you to get back together and this will allow him to stop pushing away. Second, he will get to see the girl he originally fell in love with, the one who is functioning okay in life - this is very attractive to him.3. Lastly you can get in touch with him and tell him you are doing okay. Make sure you have done steps one and two first and if you feel like you will not be able to handle this conversation face to face, then write him a short hand written note, explaining that you understand why you two had to break up and that you look forward to moving forward.By doing this your ex boyfriend is totally disarmed and you have now reopened the golden opportunity to reconnect and begin communication again, which is what you always wanted.