Empowering Youth: Parents Must First Know Themselves
How was your childhood? How were you raised? What kind of relationship did you have with your parents? You bring a unique worldview to parenting which is based on your experiences and those experiences can help or hinder your parenting skills.
Before you can ignite a positive change in your child you must take a hard honest look at the baggage you may have packed in the trunk of your life.
Remember the poem "Children Are What They Learn", that is a great place for you to begin a self check.
Challenge: Read the poem twice.
The first time is to think about your childhood and the second time is to think about your children.
This poem will reveal some areas you may need to revisit and repair.
Most importantly, you need to become aware of "your line".
Basically you need to know what pushes your buttons and causes you to lose control of the situation.
What does it take to move you from talking to your child to yelling at your child? Everyone has a line and you need to know exactly where your line is.
You cannot affect your child's behavior if you are not in control of your behavior.
So if you determine that your line is around eight, meaning you can address your child eight times before you begin to feel agitated, you have to leave room for your "bad hair" days and decide to never address your child more than six times.
Do not forget, your child is a mirror that reflects what they see.
Pay attention to your tone, attitude and behavior, and commit to making the necessary adjustments.
Have you ever wondered how some children can be raised in dramatically different environments yet grow up to have very similar personalities? And why do children who are raised in the same homes grow up to have totally different personalities from one another? Well for a long time researchers have been trying to figure that out too and by examining how parenting techniques impact the behavior of the child, four areas have been identified as having the greatest effect on a child's success: 1.
discipline 2.
nurturance 3.
communication 4.
expectations Based on these factors, researchers identified four unique parenting styles.
Parenting is what offers children structure and shows then self- respect.
Given that parenting is essential to a child's growth it is very important to use a style of parenting that will deliver discipline, love, encouragement, and direction to cultivate a healthy, happy and successful child.
Although there are four parenting styles, three are more commonly referenced and there's just one parenting style that is truly suitable as well as effective.
You must be willing to discover exactly where your own parenting style fits in and be committed to make the changes that help your son or daughter most.
Before you can ignite a positive change in your child you must take a hard honest look at the baggage you may have packed in the trunk of your life.
Remember the poem "Children Are What They Learn", that is a great place for you to begin a self check.
Challenge: Read the poem twice.
The first time is to think about your childhood and the second time is to think about your children.
This poem will reveal some areas you may need to revisit and repair.
Most importantly, you need to become aware of "your line".
Basically you need to know what pushes your buttons and causes you to lose control of the situation.
What does it take to move you from talking to your child to yelling at your child? Everyone has a line and you need to know exactly where your line is.
You cannot affect your child's behavior if you are not in control of your behavior.
So if you determine that your line is around eight, meaning you can address your child eight times before you begin to feel agitated, you have to leave room for your "bad hair" days and decide to never address your child more than six times.
Do not forget, your child is a mirror that reflects what they see.
Pay attention to your tone, attitude and behavior, and commit to making the necessary adjustments.
Have you ever wondered how some children can be raised in dramatically different environments yet grow up to have very similar personalities? And why do children who are raised in the same homes grow up to have totally different personalities from one another? Well for a long time researchers have been trying to figure that out too and by examining how parenting techniques impact the behavior of the child, four areas have been identified as having the greatest effect on a child's success: 1.
discipline 2.
nurturance 3.
communication 4.
expectations Based on these factors, researchers identified four unique parenting styles.
Parenting is what offers children structure and shows then self- respect.
Given that parenting is essential to a child's growth it is very important to use a style of parenting that will deliver discipline, love, encouragement, and direction to cultivate a healthy, happy and successful child.
Although there are four parenting styles, three are more commonly referenced and there's just one parenting style that is truly suitable as well as effective.
You must be willing to discover exactly where your own parenting style fits in and be committed to make the changes that help your son or daughter most.
