The Greatest Love Is - Love of Self - How Does Loving Yourself Help Find Love?
"Oh, no," I hear you scream, "not another lesson on the value of high self-esteem!" Well, I have a question to ask you: If you don't love yourself first, how can you confidently give and receive love back? How can you expect someone else to love you if you don't love yourself first? It's only when we fully realize who we are, and accept ourselves, can we understand how to integrate love of someone else into the rest of our existence.
So let's start with self exposure.
Who are you deep down inside? What makes you tick? What are your goals, strengths, talents, perspectives, ideas, likes and dislikes? What would you need to balance out your weaknesses and promote personal growth? Self exposure can be frightening because the vast majority of people feel inadequate, unworthy, unimportant.
They would rather become dependent, exploited, dominated or subservient than rely on their own worth.
Is that true in your case? One major reason the greatest love is self-love is because the love of self can help you find love by the way you express your self-acceptance.
This confidence in yourself attracts men like magnets.
Conversely, the lack of self-acceptance causes desperation.
This desire for love at any cost can blind one into settling for so little in return.
Sometimes otherwise secure women desperately grab hold of a man as if waiting to be rescued by him.
Not for financial support, but for the love that she desires.
Now that I have someone they reason, everything will be all right.
I am loved.
And then they will do everything possible to hold on.
Most of the time, this desperation does not help you find love--but love of self has the opposite affect.
Loving yourself affects virtually every aspect of your life.
It affects whom you choose to fall in love with and it affects your behavior in the relationship--for better or for worse.
Those with low levels of self-esteem drain life from the other and sabotage love due to their lack of self-confidence and internal insecurities.
The partner picks up on this and in time, the relationship collapses.
Without an even balance of self-esteem from both, love cannot survive.
A person with high levels of self-esteem accepts the fact that no matter how much love and caring exists between two people, each is ultimately responsible for them self.
The mature person is not waiting to be saved and does not place unnecessary, unhealthy burdens of dependence on her lover.
She is confident in her own ability, worth, mind and judgment.
She remembers that she is the prize.
" A woman with high self-esteem relies on your own inner resources for happiness rather than looking for someone else, externally, to make her happy.
Happiness, it has been said, is an 'inside' job.
When you accept this responsibility for yourself, you build self-esteem.
This understanding that the greatest love is self-love should help you find love from a man who values your uniqueness expressed by your high level of self-esteem.
And he wants to share his life with you!
So let's start with self exposure.
Who are you deep down inside? What makes you tick? What are your goals, strengths, talents, perspectives, ideas, likes and dislikes? What would you need to balance out your weaknesses and promote personal growth? Self exposure can be frightening because the vast majority of people feel inadequate, unworthy, unimportant.
They would rather become dependent, exploited, dominated or subservient than rely on their own worth.
Is that true in your case? One major reason the greatest love is self-love is because the love of self can help you find love by the way you express your self-acceptance.
This confidence in yourself attracts men like magnets.
Conversely, the lack of self-acceptance causes desperation.
This desire for love at any cost can blind one into settling for so little in return.
Sometimes otherwise secure women desperately grab hold of a man as if waiting to be rescued by him.
Not for financial support, but for the love that she desires.
Now that I have someone they reason, everything will be all right.
I am loved.
And then they will do everything possible to hold on.
Most of the time, this desperation does not help you find love--but love of self has the opposite affect.
Loving yourself affects virtually every aspect of your life.
It affects whom you choose to fall in love with and it affects your behavior in the relationship--for better or for worse.
Those with low levels of self-esteem drain life from the other and sabotage love due to their lack of self-confidence and internal insecurities.
The partner picks up on this and in time, the relationship collapses.
Without an even balance of self-esteem from both, love cannot survive.
A person with high levels of self-esteem accepts the fact that no matter how much love and caring exists between two people, each is ultimately responsible for them self.
The mature person is not waiting to be saved and does not place unnecessary, unhealthy burdens of dependence on her lover.
She is confident in her own ability, worth, mind and judgment.
She remembers that she is the prize.
" A woman with high self-esteem relies on your own inner resources for happiness rather than looking for someone else, externally, to make her happy.
Happiness, it has been said, is an 'inside' job.
When you accept this responsibility for yourself, you build self-esteem.
This understanding that the greatest love is self-love should help you find love from a man who values your uniqueness expressed by your high level of self-esteem.
And he wants to share his life with you!
