Resilience - The antidote to keeping standing
Resilience: The Antidote to keeping Standing
Bounce Back!
Why do some people make the most of setbacks and bad events, while others fall apart under the pressure? People who "bounce back" have learned to be resilient. Resilience is exceptionally important, it is key to staying up regardless of wary storms. It gives an individual a positive mindset. You fall to stand, you fail to pass. We will go a little further and see how to develop a resilient attitude and the importance of resilience.
The Importance of Resilience
Resilience is our ability to adapt and bounce back when things do not go as planned. Resilient people do not wallow or dwell on failures. They acknowledge the situation, learn from their mistakes, and then move forward. It is important to bear in mind that resilience brings out the best of an individual because when he fails and stands up, he does not only stand up, he ends up being a master over that setback. According to the research of leading psychologist, Susan Kobasa, there are three elements that are essential to resilience:
Challenge: Resilient people view a difficulty as a challenge, not as a paralyzing event that would further put them off. They look on their failures and mistakes as lessons to be learned from, and as opportunities for growth. They do not view them as a negative reflection on their abilities or self worth.
Commitment: Resilient people are committed to their goals, and they have a compelling reason to get out of bed in the morning. Commitment is not just restricted to their work - they commit relationship, their friendships, the causes they care about, and their religious or spiritual beliefs.
Personal Control: Resilient people spend their time and energy focusing on situations and events that they have control over. Because they put their efforts where they can have the most impact, they feel empowered and confident. Those who spend time worrying about uncontrollable events can often feel lost, helpless, and powerless to take action. Another leading psychologist, Martin Suligman, says the way that we explain setbacks to ourselves is also important (He talks in terms of optimism and pessimism rather than resilience, the effect is essentially the same.) This "explanatory style" is made up of three main elements:
Permanence: People who are optimistic (and therefore have more resilience) see the effects of bad events as temporary rather than permanent. For instance, they might say "My boss did not like the work I did on that project" rather than "My boss never likes my work."
Pervasiveness: Optimistic, resilient people do not let setbacks or bad events affect other unrelated areas of their lives. For instance, they would say "I am not very good at this" rather than "I am not very good at anything."
Personalization: People who are resilience do not blame themselves when bad events occur. Instead, they see other people, or the circumstances, as the cause. For instance, they might say "I did not get the support I needed to finish that project successfully," rather than "I messed that project up because I can not do my job."
There are attributes common in resilient people:
Resilient people have a positive image of the future. That is, they maintain a positive outlook, and envision brighter days ahead.
Resilient people have solid goals, and a desire to achieve those goals.
Resilient people are empathetic and compassionate, however, they do not waste time worrying what others think of them. They maintain healthy relationships, but do not bow to pressure.
Resilient people do not think of themselves as victims. They focus their time and energy on changing the things that they have control over.
How we view adversity and stress strongly affects how we succeed, and this is one of the most reasons that having a resilient mindset is so important. The fact is that we are going to fail from time to time. We all make mistakes, and occasionally fall flat on our faces. The only way to avoid this is to live a shuttered and meager existence, never trying anything new or taking risks .Few of us want a life like that!
Instead, we should have the courage to pursue our dreams, despite the very real risk that we fail in someway or other. Being resilient means that when we do fail, we bounce back, we have the strength to learn the lessons we need to learn, and we can move on to bigger and better things. Overall, resilience gives us the power to overcome setbacks, so that we can live the life we have imagined.
Developing Resilience
The good news is that even if you are not a natural resilient person, you can learn to develop a resilient mindset and attitude. To do so, incorporate the following into your following life.
Get enough sleep and exercise, and learn to manage stress. When you take care of your mind and body, you are better able to cope effectively with challenges in life.
Practice thought awareness. Resilient people do not let negative thoughts derail their efforts. Instead, they consistently practice positive thinking. Also, "listen" to how you talk to yourself when something is wrong- if you find yourself making statements to yourself that are permanent, pervasive or personalized. Correct these thoughts in your mind.
Learn mistakes, setbacks and failures. Every failure has the capacity to teach you something important; so do not stop searching until you have found the lesson in every situation: Remember that "if it doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger."
Choose your response. We all have experience ups and down in your lives and our response go long a long way to seeing if we could stand the test of time, so its your responsibility to choose to choose to be calm and logical.
Maintain Perspective. Resilient people understand that, although a situation or crisis may seem overwhelming in the moment, it may not make that much of an impact over the long-term.
Build self confidence. You have got to believe in yourself, even if a setback sets in, you need to see your victory ahead, this alone would aid you been resilient during turbulent times.
Focus on being flexible. Resilient people understand that things change, and that carefully made plans may, occasionally, need to be amended or scrapped.
Key points
Resilience is the ability to bounce back when things do not go as planned. According to psychologist, Susan Kobosa, there are three main elements that contribute to resilience. These are challenge, commitment, and control. You can develop resilience in several ways. First, take care to exercise regularly and get enough sleep, so that you can control stress more easily. The stronger you fill physically and emotionally, the easier it is for you to overcome challenges.
Focus in thinking positively, and try to learn from the mistakes you make. Build strong relationships with colleagues and friends, so that you have a support to fall back on. Also set specific and achievable personal goals, and work on building your self confidence.
Bounce Back!
Why do some people make the most of setbacks and bad events, while others fall apart under the pressure? People who "bounce back" have learned to be resilient. Resilience is exceptionally important, it is key to staying up regardless of wary storms. It gives an individual a positive mindset. You fall to stand, you fail to pass. We will go a little further and see how to develop a resilient attitude and the importance of resilience.
The Importance of Resilience
Resilience is our ability to adapt and bounce back when things do not go as planned. Resilient people do not wallow or dwell on failures. They acknowledge the situation, learn from their mistakes, and then move forward. It is important to bear in mind that resilience brings out the best of an individual because when he fails and stands up, he does not only stand up, he ends up being a master over that setback. According to the research of leading psychologist, Susan Kobasa, there are three elements that are essential to resilience:
Challenge: Resilient people view a difficulty as a challenge, not as a paralyzing event that would further put them off. They look on their failures and mistakes as lessons to be learned from, and as opportunities for growth. They do not view them as a negative reflection on their abilities or self worth.
Commitment: Resilient people are committed to their goals, and they have a compelling reason to get out of bed in the morning. Commitment is not just restricted to their work - they commit relationship, their friendships, the causes they care about, and their religious or spiritual beliefs.
Personal Control: Resilient people spend their time and energy focusing on situations and events that they have control over. Because they put their efforts where they can have the most impact, they feel empowered and confident. Those who spend time worrying about uncontrollable events can often feel lost, helpless, and powerless to take action. Another leading psychologist, Martin Suligman, says the way that we explain setbacks to ourselves is also important (He talks in terms of optimism and pessimism rather than resilience, the effect is essentially the same.) This "explanatory style" is made up of three main elements:
Permanence: People who are optimistic (and therefore have more resilience) see the effects of bad events as temporary rather than permanent. For instance, they might say "My boss did not like the work I did on that project" rather than "My boss never likes my work."
Pervasiveness: Optimistic, resilient people do not let setbacks or bad events affect other unrelated areas of their lives. For instance, they would say "I am not very good at this" rather than "I am not very good at anything."
Personalization: People who are resilience do not blame themselves when bad events occur. Instead, they see other people, or the circumstances, as the cause. For instance, they might say "I did not get the support I needed to finish that project successfully," rather than "I messed that project up because I can not do my job."
There are attributes common in resilient people:
Resilient people have a positive image of the future. That is, they maintain a positive outlook, and envision brighter days ahead.
Resilient people have solid goals, and a desire to achieve those goals.
Resilient people are empathetic and compassionate, however, they do not waste time worrying what others think of them. They maintain healthy relationships, but do not bow to pressure.
Resilient people do not think of themselves as victims. They focus their time and energy on changing the things that they have control over.
How we view adversity and stress strongly affects how we succeed, and this is one of the most reasons that having a resilient mindset is so important. The fact is that we are going to fail from time to time. We all make mistakes, and occasionally fall flat on our faces. The only way to avoid this is to live a shuttered and meager existence, never trying anything new or taking risks .Few of us want a life like that!
Instead, we should have the courage to pursue our dreams, despite the very real risk that we fail in someway or other. Being resilient means that when we do fail, we bounce back, we have the strength to learn the lessons we need to learn, and we can move on to bigger and better things. Overall, resilience gives us the power to overcome setbacks, so that we can live the life we have imagined.
Developing Resilience
The good news is that even if you are not a natural resilient person, you can learn to develop a resilient mindset and attitude. To do so, incorporate the following into your following life.
Get enough sleep and exercise, and learn to manage stress. When you take care of your mind and body, you are better able to cope effectively with challenges in life.
Practice thought awareness. Resilient people do not let negative thoughts derail their efforts. Instead, they consistently practice positive thinking. Also, "listen" to how you talk to yourself when something is wrong- if you find yourself making statements to yourself that are permanent, pervasive or personalized. Correct these thoughts in your mind.
Learn mistakes, setbacks and failures. Every failure has the capacity to teach you something important; so do not stop searching until you have found the lesson in every situation: Remember that "if it doesn't kill you, it makes you stronger."
Choose your response. We all have experience ups and down in your lives and our response go long a long way to seeing if we could stand the test of time, so its your responsibility to choose to choose to be calm and logical.
Maintain Perspective. Resilient people understand that, although a situation or crisis may seem overwhelming in the moment, it may not make that much of an impact over the long-term.
Build self confidence. You have got to believe in yourself, even if a setback sets in, you need to see your victory ahead, this alone would aid you been resilient during turbulent times.
Focus on being flexible. Resilient people understand that things change, and that carefully made plans may, occasionally, need to be amended or scrapped.
Key points
Resilience is the ability to bounce back when things do not go as planned. According to psychologist, Susan Kobosa, there are three main elements that contribute to resilience. These are challenge, commitment, and control. You can develop resilience in several ways. First, take care to exercise regularly and get enough sleep, so that you can control stress more easily. The stronger you fill physically and emotionally, the easier it is for you to overcome challenges.
Focus in thinking positively, and try to learn from the mistakes you make. Build strong relationships with colleagues and friends, so that you have a support to fall back on. Also set specific and achievable personal goals, and work on building your self confidence.
