Maintaining Your Friendship – Why is it Important to Have a Support System

Good friendship is the root of a long lasting relationship that provides for a deeper closeness between two individuals. It deepen the strong intimacy of both friends and to make that strong relationship last longer, there must be some other interventions, say a support mechanism that would lead to a more stronger friendship.

It would be useless to be too close friend, when after a while it would just break up and ended to frustration for both parties. A good support system, therefore, is vital and needs to be applied.

Ways to maintain your friendship

• Close companionship. When I was in the high school, I meet a good classmate in my first year. He was a kind fellow, and we became so close from the first time we meet until we graduated. After graduation, we parted ways, He went to the city to look for a job, and I continued my studies in college. During our high school days, we would always work together with our assignments, school projects, eats together, sleep together. etc. Some of our classmates even called us twins because we are inseparable. That's how close our friendship was.

• Sharing. We always share what we have like, food, school supplies and everything that we used in school. The lose for one is the lose of the other. It's our big advantage over the rest of our classmates because, we always give priority to our needs, we strived to make ways that we would always be ahead from our classmates to submit our school's project. It's in our sharing of works that made us close together.

• Support and concern. Whenever, there's an activities in our school that needs a physical involvement in our part, we would always join together to support each other to share the burden to carry the heavy load we're lifting. The work becomes easy for us because by working together, we could easily finish the task assigned to us with ease.

• Complementation. This is practically a support system that we usually practice as a good friend. When maintain to compliment each other regarding the way we dress, comb our hair, talk in good manners to older people and peers. Each of us gives advice to each other. When one is out of the line, the other immediate find  ways to correct the error. Anything that made our actions not in conformity with desired mores of the group, we would meticulously made the corrections on the spot.

• Social interaction.  As a good friends, we would provide each other some tips how to mingle with people in social gatherings. Sometimes, during dances, we observed that good manners how to approach the woman to dance with us and thanking her after the dance. In any occasions that involves lots of people, proper etiquettes always plays a major role in our agenda not be awkward to the norms of others. We learned from what we see and tell each one which to follow and disregard.

• Intimacy. Because of our closeness to each other, we've a warm relationship and our trust shines to a more stronger friendship. When his mother was in the hospital, we both shared in helping his brothers cared and comfort her in their problems. I showed to him my concerns by way of giving my whole support to alleviate his loneliness caused by his mother's sickness.

These support systems I mentioned, provides us with my close friend a strong relationship that did not end our friendship until he died 30 years ago from an accident. He was hit by a stray bullet directly into his heart, and he died on the spot.