Dating on Facebook, Myspace, Match.com, Etc..
Five years ago, I would have said NO WAY to meeting someone on MySpace or Facebook, but these days it's a pretty common thing. And, since I met my fiancee on MySpace I can't say anything negative about it. However, if you have read my other posts, you will see why you still have to follow the rules when you are meeting and dating someone you meet on the Net.
1. Talk to the person for awhile, get to know them before you ever go out with them-The bonus of meeting people on the internet is you get to actually talk to them and get to know them without having to meet them and go through all the criticisms that follow on a face to face date. Ask them questions about their lives, what are they interested in, what do they do for work, for fun, etc.. See if your lives are even compatible. There are a lot of "players" on the internet,so be careful. Don't get attached too quickly, because chances are they are talking to 10 other girls at the same time.
2. When you meet up with them, make sure its a public place. Don't go to someone's house you don't know. Come on guys, you have seen Dateline.. Go to a dinner, so you can talk and do more getting to know one another. Girls, make sure to follow the rules I have posted on how to act on a first date.
3. Don't have sex on the first date-no matter how much you think you know them, bc you have talked with them for weeks so it feels like the 10th date. Don't do it. Girls, it will make you look easy, and guys don't try it bc it will make you look like that is all you want. A kiss is OK, but again, don't even put yourself in the situation where it could happen. Don't go to his house, your house, parking in an abandoned lot, meeting over at another one of his or your friends homes etc..
4. Do something fun and interactive, since you have already done a lot of talking on the net, go miniature golfing or bowling or if you live in Texas go to Davenbusters or play laser tag at Main Event and play games. It will let the other person know you like to have fun and will show a good side of you. Plus it shows you can be a kid again, and men like that. Plus at Main Event for those of you in TX, or Davenbusters, its like a place for kids but you can drink as well!!! Just remember, dont drink too much!!
5.Remember my rules on what to wear, what not to talk about, how to act..etc from my blog Ask Kirsten's First Date Rules!!
6. If you are Christian or Catholic I know for sure there are dating websites out there for just people in your religion. I'm pretty sure there is one for every other religion as well. So if you feel more comfortable going out with someone that is of your belief system, then go for that. Because off the bat you have one thing in common!!
7. Make sure you look at that persons page in detail. Make certain they aren't just putting what they want people to think about them on their pages. For instance, on Myspace people tend to put older pics of them when they were skinnier, in better shape etc.. Also make sure the page isn't a fake. I can't tell you how many times girls have stolen my pics of my Myspace and gave themselves a new name, etc.. It was pretty creepy!! So watch out for that kind of stuff. If he only has like 2 friends on their, you might want to worry. Whatever you feel, go with your gut. Its usually always right!!
If you have any additional questions, email ask kirsten at kirsten@mercenaryx.com.
If you need any more advice from me, especially detailed advice regarding dating, relationships, kids, marriage, or whatever it may be I would love to help! You can sign up by month, quarterly, annually or lifetime memberships at the bottom of the page in the middle column at www.askkirsten.com What this means is that you can ask as MANY questions as you want during that time period, and allow for around a 1-2 hour turnaround time, but I do get about 30 emails a day, so at the very latest I guarantee a 24 turnaround time, but it never ends up taking that long. **Just a little more to explain the membership fee, for example if you buy the yearly membership you can ask me as many questions as you would like within that year. Even if it's 10 questions a day, it doesn't matter, and all of the will be answered in the guarantee period. ** I look forward to all of your questions!
Happy Dating,
-Ask Kirsten
1. Talk to the person for awhile, get to know them before you ever go out with them-The bonus of meeting people on the internet is you get to actually talk to them and get to know them without having to meet them and go through all the criticisms that follow on a face to face date. Ask them questions about their lives, what are they interested in, what do they do for work, for fun, etc.. See if your lives are even compatible. There are a lot of "players" on the internet,so be careful. Don't get attached too quickly, because chances are they are talking to 10 other girls at the same time.
2. When you meet up with them, make sure its a public place. Don't go to someone's house you don't know. Come on guys, you have seen Dateline.. Go to a dinner, so you can talk and do more getting to know one another. Girls, make sure to follow the rules I have posted on how to act on a first date.
3. Don't have sex on the first date-no matter how much you think you know them, bc you have talked with them for weeks so it feels like the 10th date. Don't do it. Girls, it will make you look easy, and guys don't try it bc it will make you look like that is all you want. A kiss is OK, but again, don't even put yourself in the situation where it could happen. Don't go to his house, your house, parking in an abandoned lot, meeting over at another one of his or your friends homes etc..
4. Do something fun and interactive, since you have already done a lot of talking on the net, go miniature golfing or bowling or if you live in Texas go to Davenbusters or play laser tag at Main Event and play games. It will let the other person know you like to have fun and will show a good side of you. Plus it shows you can be a kid again, and men like that. Plus at Main Event for those of you in TX, or Davenbusters, its like a place for kids but you can drink as well!!! Just remember, dont drink too much!!
5.Remember my rules on what to wear, what not to talk about, how to act..etc from my blog Ask Kirsten's First Date Rules!!
6. If you are Christian or Catholic I know for sure there are dating websites out there for just people in your religion. I'm pretty sure there is one for every other religion as well. So if you feel more comfortable going out with someone that is of your belief system, then go for that. Because off the bat you have one thing in common!!
7. Make sure you look at that persons page in detail. Make certain they aren't just putting what they want people to think about them on their pages. For instance, on Myspace people tend to put older pics of them when they were skinnier, in better shape etc.. Also make sure the page isn't a fake. I can't tell you how many times girls have stolen my pics of my Myspace and gave themselves a new name, etc.. It was pretty creepy!! So watch out for that kind of stuff. If he only has like 2 friends on their, you might want to worry. Whatever you feel, go with your gut. Its usually always right!!
If you have any additional questions, email ask kirsten at kirsten@mercenaryx.com.
If you need any more advice from me, especially detailed advice regarding dating, relationships, kids, marriage, or whatever it may be I would love to help! You can sign up by month, quarterly, annually or lifetime memberships at the bottom of the page in the middle column at www.askkirsten.com What this means is that you can ask as MANY questions as you want during that time period, and allow for around a 1-2 hour turnaround time, but I do get about 30 emails a day, so at the very latest I guarantee a 24 turnaround time, but it never ends up taking that long. **Just a little more to explain the membership fee, for example if you buy the yearly membership you can ask me as many questions as you would like within that year. Even if it's 10 questions a day, it doesn't matter, and all of the will be answered in the guarantee period. ** I look forward to all of your questions!
Happy Dating,
-Ask Kirsten
