Disputes And Problems With Your Neighbours And Everyday Living In Peace
Whether the issues are major or insignificant really is subjective. Clearly, the parties must believethat they may be significant otherwise the dispute would not have arisen in the first place.
I moved to my present residence in September 1999. I imagined however that it would be ok for twelve months. 10 years after, here I am writing this from the very same home!.
My next door has two large aviaries in which he keeps budgerigars and finches. His garden is lovely and the sound of the birds is therapeutic. I could nott care less that there is a restricted covenant stopping people keeping birds.
I have cats; the cats at times go to rest on top of the aviary. I've advised my neighbour that in the event the cats cause a problem throws a bucket of water on them. They wont do it again. It has never been a problem. They lie in the sun and my neighbour always asks after the cats welfare.
Around the other side of my house, the neighbours have threatened that if ever I move house they will shift too! It seems like I am here for the duration.
Even so, I have experienced a few issues. Once when I was burning some bushes and the next door neighbour but one (a super guy) was taking more than his fair share of smoke, he jumped up and down-a lot. I dont blame him for moaning, it completely was my fault.
The other disagreement (actually too strong a word) was with my bird keeping neighbour with whom We have a excellent friendship. The course of true love by no means runs smooth!
As mentioned earlier, I like to tinker with mechanical items. I only have a single garage and it doesnt give me a lot of room to tinker. An architect friend of mine had come up with a amazing idea of doing the property in to a sort of L shape having a double garage forming the foot of the L. I believed it was a fantastic idea but it did mean that a; it would block part of my neighbours view and b; it would take away some (note some, not all or a lot) of my neighbours light. My architect friend didnt believe I would get planning permission but I believed it was worth a punt.
The one objection I had about the planning permission was from my next door neighbour. I had discussed with him the fact that I was applying for planning permission to get a garage and it was only after he saw the ideas that he put his objection in. On the other hand, he did tell me that he was going to object and I imagine, in all honesty, that his objection was not unreasonable. I didnt get planning approval.
The whole thing didnt cause any friction in between us (at least I hope it didnt, were still talking 5 years later!) and I eventually ended up getting a workshop made at the rear of my house.
I get several queries about neighbour disputes. Generally, by the time people arrive to see me the dispute is at skirmish point. Commonly what takes place once the next door neighbour gets a letter from a solicitor, the preceding skirmish escalates in to a full blown conflict. Beware of wanting legal advice and sending solicitors letters. As Bob Hoskins stated on the BT adverts, Its good to talk.
Some people not surprisingly dont wish to upset their neighbours but still want to resolve any dispute. Negotiation (speaking) is the way forward if your neighbour will negotiate. That may be, if the neighbour will even speak! At least you have to try. At least if you can get some dialogue going your part of the way there.
I get clientele who come to see me, embroiled in a issue or other that are not on speaking terms with their neighbours; the neighbours are running roughshod all around them and yet they still dont want to upset their neighbours! I am afraid that it really is impossible to have your cake and eat it now can be a beneficial time to seek legal guidance. If the neighbours are upsetting you and they refuse to negotiate then it is impossible to resolve the matter without you upsetting them. In fact, as soon as they get a solicitors letter theyre going to get royally ticked off off. Touche.
The moral for that reason is just not to let any dispute escalate into a fully blown warfare. As soon as even the grain of an grievance in between you and your neighbour arises, speak to them about it. Don't say I am not being funny but , simply because as quickly as someone says I am not being funny but , they know that you are being funny (and never in an amusing way!). Whenever you are talking to your neighbours, smile. A smile lowers down so many barriers. Attempt and see their position of view and try and have them to see yours. BUT, most importantly, remain speaking and try to reach agreement. Don't fight fire with fire eg, dont turn your radio up loud just given that they have. You are stooping to their level.
If eventually speaking doesnt work, you may should contemplate legal action.
I moved to my present residence in September 1999. I imagined however that it would be ok for twelve months. 10 years after, here I am writing this from the very same home!.
My next door has two large aviaries in which he keeps budgerigars and finches. His garden is lovely and the sound of the birds is therapeutic. I could nott care less that there is a restricted covenant stopping people keeping birds.
I have cats; the cats at times go to rest on top of the aviary. I've advised my neighbour that in the event the cats cause a problem throws a bucket of water on them. They wont do it again. It has never been a problem. They lie in the sun and my neighbour always asks after the cats welfare.
Around the other side of my house, the neighbours have threatened that if ever I move house they will shift too! It seems like I am here for the duration.
Even so, I have experienced a few issues. Once when I was burning some bushes and the next door neighbour but one (a super guy) was taking more than his fair share of smoke, he jumped up and down-a lot. I dont blame him for moaning, it completely was my fault.
The other disagreement (actually too strong a word) was with my bird keeping neighbour with whom We have a excellent friendship. The course of true love by no means runs smooth!
As mentioned earlier, I like to tinker with mechanical items. I only have a single garage and it doesnt give me a lot of room to tinker. An architect friend of mine had come up with a amazing idea of doing the property in to a sort of L shape having a double garage forming the foot of the L. I believed it was a fantastic idea but it did mean that a; it would block part of my neighbours view and b; it would take away some (note some, not all or a lot) of my neighbours light. My architect friend didnt believe I would get planning permission but I believed it was worth a punt.
The one objection I had about the planning permission was from my next door neighbour. I had discussed with him the fact that I was applying for planning permission to get a garage and it was only after he saw the ideas that he put his objection in. On the other hand, he did tell me that he was going to object and I imagine, in all honesty, that his objection was not unreasonable. I didnt get planning approval.
The whole thing didnt cause any friction in between us (at least I hope it didnt, were still talking 5 years later!) and I eventually ended up getting a workshop made at the rear of my house.
I get several queries about neighbour disputes. Generally, by the time people arrive to see me the dispute is at skirmish point. Commonly what takes place once the next door neighbour gets a letter from a solicitor, the preceding skirmish escalates in to a full blown conflict. Beware of wanting legal advice and sending solicitors letters. As Bob Hoskins stated on the BT adverts, Its good to talk.
Some people not surprisingly dont wish to upset their neighbours but still want to resolve any dispute. Negotiation (speaking) is the way forward if your neighbour will negotiate. That may be, if the neighbour will even speak! At least you have to try. At least if you can get some dialogue going your part of the way there.
I get clientele who come to see me, embroiled in a issue or other that are not on speaking terms with their neighbours; the neighbours are running roughshod all around them and yet they still dont want to upset their neighbours! I am afraid that it really is impossible to have your cake and eat it now can be a beneficial time to seek legal guidance. If the neighbours are upsetting you and they refuse to negotiate then it is impossible to resolve the matter without you upsetting them. In fact, as soon as they get a solicitors letter theyre going to get royally ticked off off. Touche.
The moral for that reason is just not to let any dispute escalate into a fully blown warfare. As soon as even the grain of an grievance in between you and your neighbour arises, speak to them about it. Don't say I am not being funny but , simply because as quickly as someone says I am not being funny but , they know that you are being funny (and never in an amusing way!). Whenever you are talking to your neighbours, smile. A smile lowers down so many barriers. Attempt and see their position of view and try and have them to see yours. BUT, most importantly, remain speaking and try to reach agreement. Don't fight fire with fire eg, dont turn your radio up loud just given that they have. You are stooping to their level.
If eventually speaking doesnt work, you may should contemplate legal action.
