Will Our Simple Wedding Impress Our Guests?
My fiance and I are planning a very modest wedding as were paying for the majority of it ourselves and we dont have a huge amount to spend. However, my sister got married last. Year and had such a lavish affair that Im worried guessts will compare our day unfavourably. I know I shouldnt care what other people think, but I do. Howcan I stop feeling this way ?
The first thing to do is accept that the way youre feeling is completely normal. No-one has ever thrown a party without worrying that its not going to be as good as the next persons However confident we might feel, we can all be uncomfortable when were on display and a woman is never more on show than on her wedding day. Having said that ,its essential to take things back to basics and remind yourself youre planning this party because youre getting married ,tying yourself forever to the man you love and hes well worth any anxieties you might be experiencing. The only way you can calm any fears that your wedding will be unfavourably compared to your sisters is to have total confidence that the day is everything you and your future husband want it to be . if the day is a reflection of your personalities, your closest friends and family will love every second. Regardless of how much youve spent. This, however, can be easier said than done. Youve probably never organisted a wedding gown before and youre no doubt being bombarded with opinions from friends and family members. If youre confused about what you want, I would advise you to write a list of the things you dont want .Once youre clear about that , youll have a great starting point to work out your perfect day. If,from past experience, you know that certain friends or family can be relied upon to make vocal comparisons of your choices then the simple answer is not to invite them! This is your day and your money you have the guestlist control-so if you really have no choice but to extend an invitation to them. Prepare youself in advance for any hurtful commments on the day with a strong one-liner, such as, This wedding is about us and what we like, and Im so happy you can enjoy it with us, The opinionated guest will have no comeback whatsoever and you can float off happily to enjoy the rest of your day.
The first thing to do is accept that the way youre feeling is completely normal. No-one has ever thrown a party without worrying that its not going to be as good as the next persons However confident we might feel, we can all be uncomfortable when were on display and a woman is never more on show than on her wedding day. Having said that ,its essential to take things back to basics and remind yourself youre planning this party because youre getting married ,tying yourself forever to the man you love and hes well worth any anxieties you might be experiencing. The only way you can calm any fears that your wedding will be unfavourably compared to your sisters is to have total confidence that the day is everything you and your future husband want it to be . if the day is a reflection of your personalities, your closest friends and family will love every second. Regardless of how much youve spent. This, however, can be easier said than done. Youve probably never organisted a wedding gown before and youre no doubt being bombarded with opinions from friends and family members. If youre confused about what you want, I would advise you to write a list of the things you dont want .Once youre clear about that , youll have a great starting point to work out your perfect day. If,from past experience, you know that certain friends or family can be relied upon to make vocal comparisons of your choices then the simple answer is not to invite them! This is your day and your money you have the guestlist control-so if you really have no choice but to extend an invitation to them. Prepare youself in advance for any hurtful commments on the day with a strong one-liner, such as, This wedding is about us and what we like, and Im so happy you can enjoy it with us, The opinionated guest will have no comeback whatsoever and you can float off happily to enjoy the rest of your day.
