I May Not Want a Relationship, What"s Wrong With Me?
I can bet you are reading this simply because of the absurdity of the question itself.
Is a relationship really for you? I can also bet that more men are reading than women.
Whoever you are and whatever your walk of life, answering this question is a healthy thing for you to do; and here's why.
Now first, a quick side note; I am not meaning to say that you have to admit that you won't ever want a relationship.
Although, if it is true, there is nothing wrong with you; and if you are reading this for a friend, there is nothing wrong with them either! So as we go forward, keep in mind that talking yourself or others you care for, into or out of a comfortable lifestyle does far more harm than good.
Let's investigate this in some detail shall we? When is it that you should ask yourself this question? Well, as early in life as possible first.
Meaning that you should assess yourself for the first time when you are of college age.
"It is just as important to assess your personal life as it is your future professional life" I then suggest that if you do go through a long-term relationship and it ends, that you assess yourself again.
This takes a lot of self-honesty because if you are hurt it is more a blame game than an inner journey.
I suggest keeping a journal for this assessment and refer to it regularly.
Won't I be lonely if I don't eventually have a relationship? No! Being alone does not constitute loneliness.
You can involve yourself in your future and your dreams.
If you don't have any, male some now! This way when you do meet someone and are thinking along those lines, you will have become an interesting and vibrant person on our own.
You can give so much more to someone when you are accomplished yourself.
And I will tell you my friend; you will attract a far better quality person who will be more apt to support your life-choices.
Wouldn't that be great? What about my family and friends? OK, what about your family and friends? Part of being an adult is to live your own life.
People who truly love you will understand.
Unfortunately sometimes we have toxic relationships with family and friends that cause us much more long-term harm.
Listen; think of what the future repercussions will be when making your life-plan around someone else.
If you lose them, as painful as it might be, they were obviously taking a selfish stand with a self-serving purpose.
They need to work on their own issues and they will almost always come back to you once they see you have stood your boundaries.
A deep sense of self and some inner journeying will help you have a better sense of self.
This is essential for a lifetime of fulfillment.
Is a relationship really for you? I can also bet that more men are reading than women.
Whoever you are and whatever your walk of life, answering this question is a healthy thing for you to do; and here's why.
Now first, a quick side note; I am not meaning to say that you have to admit that you won't ever want a relationship.
Although, if it is true, there is nothing wrong with you; and if you are reading this for a friend, there is nothing wrong with them either! So as we go forward, keep in mind that talking yourself or others you care for, into or out of a comfortable lifestyle does far more harm than good.
Let's investigate this in some detail shall we? When is it that you should ask yourself this question? Well, as early in life as possible first.
Meaning that you should assess yourself for the first time when you are of college age.
"It is just as important to assess your personal life as it is your future professional life" I then suggest that if you do go through a long-term relationship and it ends, that you assess yourself again.
This takes a lot of self-honesty because if you are hurt it is more a blame game than an inner journey.
I suggest keeping a journal for this assessment and refer to it regularly.
Won't I be lonely if I don't eventually have a relationship? No! Being alone does not constitute loneliness.
You can involve yourself in your future and your dreams.
If you don't have any, male some now! This way when you do meet someone and are thinking along those lines, you will have become an interesting and vibrant person on our own.
You can give so much more to someone when you are accomplished yourself.
And I will tell you my friend; you will attract a far better quality person who will be more apt to support your life-choices.
Wouldn't that be great? What about my family and friends? OK, what about your family and friends? Part of being an adult is to live your own life.
People who truly love you will understand.
Unfortunately sometimes we have toxic relationships with family and friends that cause us much more long-term harm.
Listen; think of what the future repercussions will be when making your life-plan around someone else.
If you lose them, as painful as it might be, they were obviously taking a selfish stand with a self-serving purpose.
They need to work on their own issues and they will almost always come back to you once they see you have stood your boundaries.
A deep sense of self and some inner journeying will help you have a better sense of self.
This is essential for a lifetime of fulfillment.
