A few weeks ago I was having lunch with my friend George who expressed to me that the women he is dating has avoided having sex with him.
I asked him what he does during the date.
He said, "Typically I pick her up and we go for a drive.
Afterwards we come back to my place and have a few drinks.
After drinking a little I try to engage in sex by kissing and slowly taking off her clothes.
This is when my she makes some sort of excuse and removes her presence from me.
I don't get it.
This isn't the first time this has happened to me.
I have dated many women who give me the same type of response.
They seem interested but when I try to have sex they always steer clear away from me.
" I told him it sounds like you're a little too aggressive and need to tame yourself a bit.
Men who just want to move straight to the sex often times turn a woman off.
Women just don't get sexually aroused within a second.
Women need to be treated in a special way before they will have the sexual desire to be intimate.
There are things a man can do to get a woman sexually aroused.
A man can start off by pampering his woman.
By pampering I don't necessarily mean spending money.
Buying jewelry, clothes and other luxuries of life are great however there are inexpensive things a man can do to pamper a woman.
For example, some things a man can do is have a picnic at the park, give her a full body massage, go on a romantic day trip or do something adventurous such as hiking in the mountains.
Whatever a man comes up with it should be something he thinks the woman would enjoy.
Say sweet things.
Woman love it when a man uses nice loving words.
Women love receiving compliments for the things they do.
Women want to feel appreciated for who they are not on what they can physically give to the man.
I don't think there is any woman who likes to feel they are getting sexually used.
Women want to be loved first and words are a great way a man can express their affection.
Set a romantic mood.
Create a comfortable and loving atmosphere.
For example, lit the room with candles, have rose petals scattered on the floor, play some jazz music, have a few glasses of apple cider available and dim the lights.
Add anything else to the environment that you think your woman would enjoy.
Start out slow with gentle caresses.
Be patient and avoid rushing the intimacy.
Ask your woman if you can give her a massage.
Play with her hair in a loving manner.
Give her soft kisses on the neck.
Ask her how she wants to be touched and what makes her feel good.
For every woman it is different.
For example, some women may enjoy kisses on the neck while for others it is a mood killer.
By using these tips a man can get their woman sexually aroused.
I talked with George the other day and he told me he used the suggestions I gave him.
George said, "Finally I was able to be intimate with the her.
She seems very pleased by my romantic and thoughtful gestures that I made throughout the date.
" These tips worked for George and I think it can work for any man.
If your woman continues to be resistant in being intimate with you talk with her or request that both of you see a counselor.
There could be something else going on in the relationship that is preventing an intimate connection.